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Sadness Overwhelms

It’s been a while since I’ve Posted. I have been preoccupied with my daughter, and Ed, who is recovering from a triple heart bypass which has improved his mood no end, and, yes, that’s irony. The most recent tragedy to enter my lfie is that my dearest New York City friend has died of cancer. Her name was Julie. It took a while for me to discover this. I tried to reach her, left messages, no response. So I looked up her daughter and found her on line along with Julie’s obituary. I was shocked and devastated. The news was horrendous. She died the day after my birthday in September. So every morning when I wake up now, I feel her loss.

Julie was about 15 years younger than me. We met when we were both editorial assistants at Harper & Row (now Harper-Collins), sharing a space just outside the offices of our editors. We became friends. Julie left Harper’s to become a New York City school teacher. She did that about 5 years and left when she got married.

I remember riding around Brooklyn with her. She was driving. Some teens were horsing around while crossing the street in front of us, and Julie muttered “don’t tempt me.” Apparently she had had her fill of in-your-face inner-city students.

About two years ago Julie experienced her own tragedy. Her husband died suddenly. She was fighting a recurrence of cancer, and I am sure her grief diid not ease her path, but she soldiered on, trying to organize the household, deal with the bills, and the massive amount of paperwork left behind. So she is gone. It is a reminder of the instant tragedies that can impact one’s life.

I remind everyone that I am not seeing your most recent posts unless I go after each one. I changed my e mail, notified Eddie, he said he changed it, but I am still not getting notifications. I’ll try to keep up.

Love to everyone,

xx. Teal

posted on Dec 9, 2021 11:30 AM ()


I guess I am destined to be the oldest person our family has ever had, with my 93rd birthday coming soon. I have had a lot of time on my hands with no social life and so have been doing some research on my father's side of the family. It is not nearly as interesting as my mother's. We still adhere to some of the Southern customs like the naps after lunch where all the secrets are told. The men drink during this time. The children usually choose to hang out with the women and learn a lot. Our ancestors had stills and I know how to make a tasty and potent wine. It is in demand.
comment by elderjane on Mar 12, 2022 5:35 AM ()
Dearest T, my heart aches reading this sad news about your friend's death. My caring condolences embrace you, and my sympathies surround you with support across the miles. How precious our longtime friends are, and our times together with them are such precious treasures! May your memories of Julie always be blessings.
comment by marta on Dec 14, 2021 12:10 PM ()
HI Ms. Marta, I checked your blog and you haven't posted since 2014. What's up with that? Let's hear about what you've been up to. Thanks for your kind words. You may have missed my post where the baby I gave up for adoption found me and we are now mother and daughter and email each other daily. I can't believe my good fortune. love, T
reply by tealstar on Jan 7, 2022 12:29 PM ()
So sorry for your loss. Good friends can almost become sisters and we feel their loss deeply.
comment by elderjane on Dec 11, 2021 3:36 AM ()
Very sorry to hear about your friend. Another NYC editorial lady. Sometimes your reminiscences make me think of Jack Finney stories, which all seemed to be based there.
comment by drmaus on Dec 9, 2021 5:47 PM ()
thanks for condolences -- I'm tired of losing people. xx, T
reply by tealstar on Jan 7, 2022 12:30 PM ()

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