Some my posts lately have been about confidence and Janet has reminded me that I have a "need" for validation of my feelings.
Confidence from self-esteem. About two years ago I posted something about self-esteem. Apparently, I have not made much progress on mine. I haven't even thought about it. On one web page, "Low self-esteem causes depression, unhappiness, insecurity and poor confidence. Other's desires may take preference over yours. Inner criticism, that nagging voice of disapproval inside you, causes you to stumble at every challenge and challenges seem impossible" (https://www.more-selfesteem.com/self_esteem.htm).
I continue to have issues with this, but it slows me down and causes stress.
It comes from my childhood when I learned to fear punishment for doing things wrong instead of learning self confidence. I think I'm less depressed and unhappy than I was then, but it remains something that I need to work on in the present.
I have spared you. Believe me.