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And I'm Back in the Game
And I'm Back in the Game
First off, my laptop is in the shop and has been out of commission for weeks. Which has hindered blogging. But since a lot has happened in my love life I will type this out on my phone. So please forgive typos and misspellings.
It's been five months since Thom and I parted ways and it took me three to deal with that, four to start feeling single, and here at five to be ready to date again. I put it out into the Universe and it responded with lots of men showing me attention. It has been ridiculous the number of men that have hit on me lately. And I like the attention.
The week before thanksgiving I went to a bar to hear some free live music. I was hit on four times and one caught my attention. Adam, the musician. But I didn't know he was in a band himself until he had me look him up on FB. We flirted and parted ways with just an innocent kiss at the end of the night.
This was good. This little kiss was the catalysts for taking Thom out of the picture and for me to be ready to date again.
When I returned from the holiday vacation to my hometown, the musician wrote to me and asked when we might cross paths again. I told him at his show on Sunday.
On Friday night I went to Pasadena to see my favorite LA band perform and ran into a few friends at the show. This was nice for a change cause I usually have to go to these things alone. Most of my friends only see concerts of big name bands if they go out for music at all. To my surprise the Musician was there too. So we flirted some more.
And I agreed to meet him at his place for some after hours red wine. And we all know what that means so I'll skip ahead of this story to Saturday.
I didn't want the whole weekend to be just about the Musician, so I asked a friend about a party he was DJ'ing at. He so gently reminded me that Thom would be there. I told him that I knew he would and I'd have to run into him eventually. Plus bagging a musician the night before would make that meeting so much easier for me. The friend laughed and agreed that would help.
So I put on my red skirt, black ruffled panties, black cowboy boots and a white sweater and headed into the Xmas themed warehouse party to run straight into Thom. And surprisingly it didn't have any affect on me emotionally. I had a blast catching up with old friends, dancing my unemployment blues away, sliding down the makeshift slide they had built, and again being hit on by lots of guys throughout the night.
One guy in particular seemed very interested in me. But I wasn't there to meet guys. I couldn't go after any that were Thom's friends and I already had the musician. But in the wee hours of the night my girlfriends were winding down in a room filled with pillows and blankets. I joined them in the cuddle pit and we talked a while. Soon more people joined us one of whom was Silas, who slid up right next to me.
The cuddle pit got crazy and we were all massaging a guy in the middle, I had his knee. Silas decided to use this opportunity to massage me instead. And to be honest, I really enjoyed the attention. Until Thom showed up to join the pit. Silas even went as far as to kiss me and I had to ask him to ease up when Thom was in the room because it made me uncomfortable because Silas was mostly behind me and my view was only of Thom. It was disconcerting.
Silas understood and did as I asked. Soon Thom left and I didn't care if he was uncomfortable with watching me be groped by another man. He never fell in love with me so what does he care? And Silas turned out to be one of the few single guys at the party that wasn't one of Thom's friends.
Silas had carpooled with his friends and around 4am they were ready to leave and Silas wasn't. I told him, "of course you don't want to go when you have me to fondle." he laughed. And again I was enjoying the attention. I then told him that I didn't think it wise for me to take him home as I had just slept with someone the night before and the debate continued. He won, cause frankly I'm a little easy and being a woman in my prime I wanted more than the musician had offered the night before.
I am fascinated with Silas. The more I get to know him the more I like him. He surprises me. He mentioned that he runs with his dog in the mountains and I told him that I love running trails so he offered that as a potential date. He carried me to my bedroom and at the end of the night he held me all night long as we slept.
To my dismay, the room was so cold that it triggered my vertigo and Silas had to leave me in spinning misery. He offered help but there's nothing anyone can do for me when this happens. It's an inner ear imbalance and usually takes me three to four days to feel normal again.
So we exchanged phone numbers and he told me to call if I wanted to see him again. So I texted him the other day that I did and we have a date on Friday.
In the meantime, I had to email the Musician to let him know that I was too ill to see his show on Sunday. I really did want to see him on stage. And he texted me the other night to see if I was better yet. I know I will see him next week at the bar where we first met. I've decided to celebrate my mid-week birthday there listening to live music.
So here I am. A woman again torn between two men. I was in this same spot two years ago with Thom and another man. Hopefully not repeating history completely.
Sure Silas seems to be in the lead for my heart but don't count out the musician just yet.
posted on Dec 10, 2009 7:05 AM ()
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