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A Report on My Brother

Jim is still in the hospital.  He has not been given any more radiation; however, I just spoke with him on the phone and he will be getting chemo in his room today.
The doctors are now concerned about his heart.  It seems he also had fluid around his heart, which is commonly known as congestive heart failure, and is a side effect of chemo.  He is having pain in his hips and ankles from poor blood flow; in addition, he is experiencing blurred vision.
He spent all morning in radiology having a stress test and other tests on his heart.  Tomorrow morning, the doctors are going to do angioplasty because he is only getting about a 20 per cent output of blood from his heart.
I truly do not know if he will be strong enough to get through this chemo/radiation protocol or not.  He spent 55 years trying just as hard as he could to destroy his body with heavy drinking and smoking.
Now, at 65,  it has all caught up with him.  He's my brother, and I love him; but I can tell you that he has put all of us through hell in the past with his drinking.  I distanced myself from him for many years because I just couldn't deal with his drinking.
He went through three wives and tons of girlfriends during his drinking days.  He has two sons who are trying to help as much as they can; but they both have to work.
Nonetheless, my other brother and I bailed him out of jail many times when he was picked up for drunken driving, fighting, or public drunkenness.    We finally had to stop because the bail was getting beyond our financial capability to pay.  It was only after he violated his bail one time too many that he finally had to serve three months in a correctional facility.
He quit drinking after that aside from a few beers about once a month when he played pool with his buddies;  but he kept right on smoking two to three packs of cigarettes a day.  
I'm back in my "feeling guilty" phase again about moving to Texas with him sick and Mother in the shape she is.  I just hope I'm doing the right thing.  Of course, I'll only be three hours away if things should turn critical.
 


posted on Sept 21, 2010 10:55 AM ()

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We all make choices, you, your brother, all of us. That some of us made better choices in life than others does not mean that we have to rearrange our lives to accomodate them. One of my favorite quotes: "Lack of proper planning on your part does not constitute a crisis on mine." Move and be happy! You are close enough if they need you.
comment by dragonflyby on Sept 30, 2010 7:50 AM ()
Some people just don't have the strength of will to refuse alcohol or smoking. You will be close enough to drive back when you need to. Go with out a doubt because your grand daughters need you. I have seen Adrienne just bloom and become so much more affectionate since we moved
closer to them. It is tough being the oldest child.
comment by elderjane on Sept 28, 2010 5:18 PM ()
I agree. I think Bailey really needs my loving presence in her life. She is going into such a critical stage of adolesence.
reply by redimpala on Sept 28, 2010 5:31 PM ()
You must do what will make you feel "comforted" after he passes away. It is a terrible thing to have regrets after they're gone....sadly it is something you have to think about now before it is too late.... My prayers go out to you and your family.
comment by aussiegirl on Sept 22, 2010 9:38 AM ()
Thank you, Maria. That is what keeps occupying my thoughts. He has done some terrible things to me down through the years; however, he is still my brother.
reply by redimpala on Sept 22, 2010 3:30 PM ()
Some people are self destructive and listen to no one. You can wear yourself out trying to help. You're doing a lot for him. I hope he realizes how wonderful his family has been to absorb his mistakes as they have.
comment by tealstar on Sept 21, 2010 8:25 PM ()
I guess that's just what family does...my family anyway.
reply by redimpala on Sept 22, 2010 3:30 PM ()
Listen to your daughters--they were raised by a smart woman!

I know as big a pain in the butt as he has been and all the years he spent ruining his health you wish he didn't have to go through the hell he is going through n.ow
comment by greatmartin on Sept 21, 2010 3:58 PM ()
He is my brother, no matter what mistakes he has made. Those memories of youth die hard.
reply by redimpala on Sept 21, 2010 8:10 PM ()
Oh, you're doing the right thing to make the move. Sounds like you were there for him plenty over the years, and he's worn you out. This guy had no consideration for the rest of his family when he chose to drink and smoke like there was no tomorrow. Tomorrow is here, and it's not your fault he's in bad shape.
comment by troutbend on Sept 21, 2010 12:08 PM ()
That's the same advice I am getting from my daughters.
reply by redimpala on Sept 21, 2010 12:20 PM ()

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