This man is an abuser. Period. The wife should not have to stay with her husband and submit to the abuse. She needs to get away from him. Statistics show that most abusers do not change for the better. God does not expect any woman to stay in a marriage that is infested with domestic violence. I hope she gets the courage to leave and get help. If he is doing these things in public, I can almost guarantee that what he is doing behind closed doors is really bad. As for helping him, like most abusers he won't see himself as being in the wrong. He has to first admit that he has a problem and then seek help. Please, please, please, stand beside the wife on this. Encourage her to get help and leave the abuse. She is most likely afraid to leave. The most dangerous period of an abusive relationship is when the victim tries to leave. Please cover her with prayers of protection.

I can only shake my head for the sadness of the situation and wish there was a way I could fix it.

IF this man does this in public, he is a serious danger, in most cases..he could kill...

It's a low down bastard who will beat his wife and have her live in fear.
I'd like to take a 2x4 to him myself.
Once when I was working in an emergency room of a county hospital, the same
little black lady came in every weekend, having been beaten by her husband.
Crying, with black eyes and bruises. Every single weekend.I was so incensed I told her "I wouldn't put up with that sh*t." She said what can I do? I was only half joking when I said I'd shoot the sob. So next weekend, HE comes in--she had shot him in his leg next to his privates.I saw her in the store weeks later, she was smiling. She was still with him, but he hadn't touched her since she'd winged him. Served him right.

I don't know where it is that you are, but for me...I'm not a 'pro-divorce' person, but at the same time, I agree with divorce too. When I was growing up, my mom and dad 'stayed together for the kids' and my sister and I both wish to heck they had just gotten the danged divorce and gotten on with life.
As for the abuse, he won't change without help. And even then it will be a life-long struggle for him. For the sake of her children and herself, she needs to get away from this abusive life. Divorce is better than being beaten to death.

An abusive man rarely changes. Looserobes is right about the intervention being necessary immediately.

I have a few suggestions but I don't think you would approve.

Um - why doesn't she want a divorce????
No person should be treated that way, ever. The man is unstable and she should let him go asap!

Sounds like this situation has one potential avenue of relief for her: the presence of a caring extended family. They ought to provide her and the children with some sort of sanctuary b/c this man will not alter his behavior until something drastic occurs. Hopefully, the drastic occurrence will not be the wife's demise, as predictable as that may be at this point. Significant intervention is called for ASAP.

First of all, I think that one must see the error of his ways and want to be helped. This guy sounds as though he needs to be commented and learn to deal with his anger in a more constructive manner! I just don't like this individual at all!