As most of you know i chat now and then. I cooperate in a chatroom and I use Yahoo messenger now and then.
Tonight one of my earliest e-friends, lets call him D, was online and i just said "hi how are you" cause thats the way you usually start a chat. Well his answer made me feel sad.
For 4 and a half he has been in a relationship with a guy who is a bit younger (call him M)and still was studying. They both live in Serbia and it isnt easy for gay guys to have gay relationships.
The family of his bf doesnt know he is gay and the same is for my friend to whom I was chatting with tonight. Just a few friends of them know about their sexual orientation.
M studied Italian and for his study he left quite some time to Italy. My friend D obvoiously had a very difficult time then not being with his lover.
M came home again some months ago but is very insure about his life and his relationship it seems now.
A few days ago he made the decision to leave my dear friend D. They split up for a month now so he can make his mind up about what to do. Here just some phrases of my chat (I hope he dont mind). My friend really feels a bit desperate and I wish I woud be able to help a bit.
" he talk about me.....but need time to realise what he wants.....he has very rough time, no real job, no understanding in family, all shits....must go to army....and suddenly he starts to wonder about all things in his life...including me"
These sentences almost made me cry cause i care about him so much. he was my first e-friend ever and that gives a special feeling, so I really want to help him. But what can i do. He only can wait till his bf made a decision about their relationship. He feels so desperate right now.
I want to support him so much. Anyone have any advice for me ( or him)?
Not able to talk with others ( just a few friends who know about their relationship) doesnt make it easy for him. I hope I can support him.
What can I do, any suggestions?