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Life & Events > After 60+ Years I Still Love Her!
 

After 60+ Years I Still Love Her!

Doris Day: Why She Left Hollywood

July 13, 2008


(CBS) When life seemed so much simpler in America - a half century or so
ago - Doris Day was America's sweetheart, the beloved "girl next door" and a
huge recording and movie star.

"Doris Day is, to this day, the number
one female box office star of all time, she's the only one who was number one
for four years in a row," David A. Kaufman, author of a new biography about the
star, told Sunday Morning correspondent Jerry Bowen. "That was
never true of Elizabeth Taylor, Greta Garbo, Katherine Hepburn, of anyone else!"


In the 1950s and 60s it was hard to find a movie magazine without her
beaming face on the cover.




Photos: Doris Day



And her leading men came from the "A-list" of the day, says
Kaufman, whose new unauthorized biography "Doris Day, The Untold Story Of The
Girl Next Door," was released in June.

"Well, famously Rock Hudson, Cary
Grant, James Cagney, Jimmy Stewart," said Kaufman.

Add Frank Sinatra,
Kirk Douglas and Jack Lemmon to the list, too.

But Doris Day's reality,
like that of that long ago America, was more complex and in some ways darker
than the bubbling, everything's coming up roses public image.

At the end
of her career she not only left Hollywood. She stopped being Doris Day.


For nearly 30 years now she's lived near Carmel, California. She's an
avid animal rights advocate nursing strays back to health on her small ranch.
And she's known as "Clara" to most friends - a nickname given to her early in
her career.

She's rarely seen in public and rarely heard except for one
day each year.

On her birthday a local radio station plays the songs she
made famous...and Doris and her alter ego, Clara call in to say thanks.


"Well, her first big hit was 'Sentimental Journey' which she recorded at
the very end of the Second World War," Kaufman said. "And it became very popular
for that reason with the, with the soldiers abroad who wanted to come home and
with their wives here who wanted them home."

It was 1939 when a
17-year-old Doris Kappelhoff of Cincinnati, Ohio began her singing career with
the big bands of that era. Her stage name became Day and she was off on the ride
of her life.

But for all the success that would follow in song and film,
she never found what she wanted most.

"The only thing she ever really
wanted was to have a happy marriage and a happy family life," Kaufman said. "And
it's the one thing she never had. She was married four times, but she was
ultimately not happy with any of her husbands."

By the time she'd won
acclaim for her first film, "Romance On The High Seas" in 1948, Day had been
married and divorced twice and left with a baby boy. Her first husband beat her.
Her second abandoned her.

At age 25 her search for Mr. Right had gone
very wrong. But her film career was taking off. And her films were giving a
boost to her recordings.

"'It's Magic,' which is in her first film,
'Romance On The High Seas' and then after that the next biggest song is 'Secret
Love' from 'Calamity Jane.' And after that comes 'Que Sera, Sera,' which ends up
being the biggest of all, of her entire career," said Kaufman.

Cabaret
singer Mary Cleere Haran created a one woman show dedicated to the songs of
Doris Day.

"She had a lovely lullaby quality to her voice and I think
everybody responds to that. And I think it's universal" said Haran.


Haran also wrote and produced a PBS documentary "Sentimental Journey."
Now 17 years old, it features a rare interview in which Day reflected on her two
decades of filmmaking - 39 films in all - and the one she liked most.


"'Calamity Jane' (was) probably my favorite movie," Day said in the
interview. "Because that's the real me. But when I was a little girl I'd
stumble. I loved climbing trees and you know skating and doing all the things
that the boys did. Yet I loved dolls."

Her most popular film may have
been "Pillow Talk," the first of three movies she did with Rock Hudson when both
stars were number one at the box office.

Their on screen chemistry was
matched by a lifelong off screen friendship. Founded in part, said Kaufmann, on
the secret lives they shared, which included her troubled marriages and his
homosexuality.

"I think, without ever discussing it, that they could
relate to being basically the opposite to what their images suggested," said
Kaufman. "For example the girl next door was not above having affairs...at least
according to her alleged lovers...baseball player Maury Wills - which she denied
- and Mickey Mantle, about which she was silent.

Behind-the-scenes for
17 years of her life was Marty Melcher, agent and husband number three. He
tightly managed her career as their marriage quickly became a business
relationship.

Day made the money and by accident or design Marty
squandered it all. When Melcher died, Day learned her $23 million dollar fortune
was actually a $400,000 debt.

The Doris Day show, a situation comedy,
saved her. It ran for five years on CBS and paid her legal bills as she fought
her late husband's business partners to recover her losses. Eventually she won
some of it back:

"I just knew that justice would prevail," Day said at
the time. "I've known it all along."

By the early 1970s her career was
largely over and her fourth marriage was failing. Despite offers she never took
on another TV show until 1985 when she agreed to a cable show devoted to pets.
It was called "Doris Day's Best Friends."

The appearance of her human
best friend was sad and shocking.

Rock Hudson, gaunt and ghostly pale
and gravely ill with AIDS was Day's guest. The illness had opened the door on
his secret homosexuality. Hudson died two and a half months after appearing with
Day. And she began her retreat from the public eye.

"She looks like
Doris Day - a little older, but Doris Day. She still looks great," said actress
Kay Ballard, a long-time friend and occasional visitor to Day's Carmel Valley
retreat. "She spends time making food for the animals. It's so funny, she has
them on a vegetarian diet, and you know she really, she just adores her
animals.'

Ballard was a regular on the old Doris Day show. She says her
old friend doesn't always answer her phone calls - sometimes doesn't even answer
the door. Most days she just wants to be left alone.

"I just think the
disappointment she's had in marriages is what turned her off of people and
turned her to animals," said Ballard. "And they never disappoint you."


Life may not have been perfect for the girl next door. There were quite
a few bumps along the road.

But for Doris Kappelhoff from Cincinnati,
Ohio, it's been a pretty amazing journey.


posted on July 16, 2008 8:39 AM ()

Comments:

I'm definitely a fan of Doris Day. I loved her movies and, yes, especially those with Rock Hudson, but they were all very enjoyable. Calamity Jane was a favorite of mine, too, now that I think of it. I didn't realize, though, just how unhappy she was and how she's hidden herself away so much. I did not about her being an animal advocate and not being involved in acting anymore, but I didn't know she has actually been shutting people and the world out of her life.
comment by donnamarie on July 16, 2008 8:40 PM ()
Animals love back better than most humans. Sad that she had such poor taste in men.
comment by looserobes on July 16, 2008 1:31 PM ()
I like Doris Day, always have. I saw her last interview about the Shelter she founded. When she talked about her animals, her eyes lit up. Sometimes our animal buddies give us more love than the people we love can manage.

It can take a long time to recover from the loss of a close friend to AIDS. some of us never really do recover, and wander around at night muttering to ourselves, "All I really want is all my friends back."

How nice that she has found a new calling working with the critters, who certainly need her help, and love her unconditionally. I know many folks find it fulfilling to volunteer at Animal Shelters. It makes them happy, and is a swell place to make new friends, with similar values.
comment by thestephymore on July 16, 2008 12:46 PM ()
How sad that someone who gave the world so much joy should herself know so much disappointment and sorrow.
comment by dragonflyby on July 16, 2008 10:18 AM ()
I love her, still watch her movies, her and Debbie Reynolds.
comment by elfie33 on July 16, 2008 9:06 AM ()

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