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Life & Events > On the Heels of Solitaire's Post
 

On the Heels of Solitaire's Post

I mentioned that I am once again suffering from a bout of depression. It happens. Unfortunately, it is an ongoing symptom of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). I will be fine for months then the depression sets in again. Maybe I should be taking anti-depressant medication, but in order to both alleviate the symptoms and prevent recurring bouts, I would have to take them every day- day after day- year after year. That does not appeal to me. Instead, I accept that bouts of depression are a part of my life and remind myself that it will pass again. There is a light at the end of this dark tunnel! There always is.

I have undergone every type of therapy. I have, in fact, been in therapy for more than 40 years. I have taken medication and undergone various treatment modalities. I think that is why I had such a strong reaction to the references to Ellis and Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) on Randy's post. (The inclusion of the word 'behavior' is a recent change.)

As a therapist- when I was a therapist- I liked using the cognitive approaches to counseling/therapy including REBT whenever possible. These modalities deal with perceptions and choosing how we respond to the world. We cannot change the world, only how we respond to it. It is changing those "inner voices"- the criticism etc., that we internalized as children- and replacing them with new "voices", i.e., feelings of worthlessness with, "I am a wonderful human being with much to contribute."

My reaction stems from therapists entrenched in the REBT modality- a single fix for every affliction, and if it does not work, then it is because the patient/client is "non-compliant" with therapy. (Blaming the patient for his condition.) REBT is not effective when dealing with organically based conditions. One can't will away depression any more than one can will away heart disease.

There is nothing wrong with REBT. It is an effective therapy but it is not the only modality and sometimes not the best choice. I think my strong internal reaction was because I once had a therapist who was entrenched in REBT and those words, "non-compliant" are now a permanent part of my medical treatment record. Her notations in my medical record nearly prevented me from receiving my VA disability because unfortunately, the treatment modality employed by the therapist is NOT a part of the session notes.

Wow! I am going on and on without even getting to what is going on, the events that opened the doors to my most recent depression. I have to remind myself that avoidance is a coping mechanism too.



posted on July 23, 2011 11:42 AM ()

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We are all too complex for one approach to solve our problems.
comment by elderjane on July 24, 2011 9:56 AM ()
Yes, we are.
reply by dragonflyby on July 26, 2011 7:21 AM ()
Ted is on a cocktail of antidepressants. They help. It is a personal
decision whether or not to take them. He is almost agoraphobic and
it is difficult for me because I am sociable by nature. I cut both our
hair yesterday because he didn't want to go to a barber shop. He is much
worse with the chronic pain and balance problems that started after his
light stroke. He is also not v ery good at communicating with his doctors.
I understand your pain. I am not suffering from it but I am living with it.
comment by elderjane on July 24, 2011 9:54 AM ()
Now that I am getting older, the prospect of taking them for the rest of my life is less daunting- because there are fewer years left.
reply by dragonflyby on July 26, 2011 7:22 AM ()
Interesting, although it's over my head. Here's my "solutions": paint something lovely (sunflowers, rainbow...), listen to happy music (jazz, bluegrass?), go to Goodwill and buy something (you'll be helping them out), make a root beer float! That always cheers me up.
comment by solitaire on July 24, 2011 7:09 AM ()
I was just talking about the Goodwill with a friend. The Goodwill is always fun because of the unexpected finds.
reply by dragonflyby on July 26, 2011 7:24 AM ()
Yes,I knew that you were going through with this at times.
You know Mike and I will gladly give our support to you.
Maybe someday we will meet.Hoping that you will get well soon and do understand about the med.Not fun.But if it does help well why not.
I guess Randy got them sounding off there.
comment by fredo on July 23, 2011 1:20 PM ()
I am working my way out. I talked to my son yesterday and that helped.
reply by dragonflyby on July 26, 2011 7:24 AM ()
I hope you start feeling better soon. Bouts of depression can be really difficult. Sending love and support your way.
comment by lunarhunk on July 23, 2011 1:10 PM ()
Thank you so much! You are such a dear!
reply by dragonflyby on July 26, 2011 7:25 AM ()

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