My son's 15. "He's a kid!" yeah, yeah, I know....

He's also really sneaky. Has been watching shows on TV he isn't supposed to (yeah, I'm a little strict & when I saw he was recording a show he wasn't supposed to last night [he was away at his father's]....I recorded this morning Barney & Teletubbies over it!). He also has been eating things he isn't supposed to at proper times (he's a type 1 diabetic). He has a lot of freedom otherwise. My husband & I have decided to let him decide if he wants to go with his friends or our family places if the 3 of us do not already have plans made together & he is responsible for letting everyone know. This has helped to elminated A LOT of the ex's "important" calls to me (that & hubby answering the phone a few times for me...). I think we're all mostly happy with the new arrangement. Except my son.

Something comes up, let's say something "simple" like...a friend calls & asks him to go to a movie (yes, it would be something he "could" go see). "So & so asked me to go to the movie on this night at this time." "Are you going?" "I dunno." "Let us know what you decide, we don't have plans that night so you can go."

A day or so later, we ask, "So what are your plans with your friend?" *shrug* "What did you decide?" "I don't like making decisions." "Does that mean you're staying home or you're going with your friend? You need to answer him soon." "I guess I'll just stay home!"

I KNOW he's "just a kid" but what is it that I'm missing? Why is it he wants to be told yet what to do even though he is always (repeatedly) asking to make his own choices? It seems to me, but perhaps I'm recalling it incorrectly, I was itching to make a choice or two on my own when I was his age. (Not that I had a lot of friends or opportunity to do things though, but still!)

Oh well, no one said parenting was easy! =)

Better get movin...I have tons to get accomplished in the next couple of hours...take care! =)