I have an acquaintance, "Medea" who is always teasing me about finding me a boyfriend. I say well it would be nice to have a guy to dine out with or go to the casino with, as a friend. Medea says "Well you know sooner or later you'll have to put out."
I suppose that's what it takes to get and keep a boyfriend.
But what if you feel friendly and comfortable around a guy but don't have any sexual attraction to him? Can't a man and a woman just be friends?

Once you get into sex, then things get more complicated. The guy starts to expect things. There's a lot of "boll weevils" old folks used to call men like that, out there who are looking for home, for a woman to look like Pamela Anderson and work like Ma Kettle while he moves in with you and expects three meals a day and for you to keep his clothes washed and not contribute to household expenses.

Medea is mid thirties, looks eighteen, has a beautiful figure, sweet, smart, great cook, wonderful mother, takes her kids to church every week, supports their school activities whole heartedly, works 40+ hours a week--I mean this girl (I call her girl because she looks so young) is the whole Anderson-Kettle package. And she has a boll weevil boyfriend.

The pickings are slim in this neck of the woods. If Medea lived in a big city maybe she could find a fella who deserves an extraordinary person like herself. But if Medea can't find a guy deserving of HER, I sure don't stand a chance.
That's why a boy friend would be okay--but they aren't out there and I ain't gonna "put out" to just any old boll weevil.

susil