Susil

Profile

Username:
susil
Name:
Susil
Location:
Carthage, MS
Birthday:
01/05
Status:
Single
Job / Career:
Other

Stats

Post Reads:
137,699
Posts:
759
Photos:
4
Last Online:
> 30 days ago

My Friends

> 30 days ago
> 30 days ago
> 30 days ago
> 30 days ago
> 30 days ago
> 30 days ago

Subscribe

News From Mississippi

Life & Events > Baaaad Mother
 

Baaaad Mother

My daughter is 44 years old, and every time we get on the phone she she soon reverts to a whiney sounding 10 year old who berates and blasts and accuses me of being a horrible booger of a mother when she was growing up.

In her mind, I am a cross between a Medici and Cruella de Ville. Why? Because I had to work all the time when she was growing up. She doesn't see this as a form of love--that someone worked like a dog to keep her fed and clothed and a roof over her head. I divorced her alcoholic father and had to work to support myself and my two little girls.

I know it wasn't easy for them. I didn't know what else to do but work. Somebody had to. As soon as the oldest got out of high school she married a guy with mental problems who keeps the pot boiling and instigating this mother hostility--I can't believe my smart pretty daughter would act this way on her own.

It's gotten so bad I don't accept phone calls or letters from her husband due to their vile hateful nature. They aren't allowed to visit because every visit has been so horrible. But yesterday, my daughter phoned and I answered
but quickly, she started that bad mother thing again. I have cut the umbilical cord. They are free to go their way and I'll go mine. At my age, all I want--and feel I deserve--is some peace and quiet. I just wish she could find some peace herself.
susil

posted on Dec 7, 2008 1:09 PM ()

Comments:

Your title reminded me of "Bad Santa" which I didn't see, but got because... well, I'm not sure why. Maybe it'll give me some insight and then I'll come and tell you. You are NOT a bad mother!! You have been extremely good, sacrificing, and everything a mom should be!
comment by sunlight on Dec 11, 2008 7:56 PM ()
Yep, I know it's tough, but life's too short to stew over it. You did your best, it's over and done with. Move forward. And I'm sorry.
comment by solitaire on Dec 10, 2008 6:23 AM ()
FYI about censorship... Those words are only ### in the comments section. Keeps people from posting really tasteless replies. You can still use those words in blogs as always.
comment by jjoohhnn on Dec 9, 2008 8:26 AM ()
Su, I guess my sis is still waiting for me to "apologize" because this all happened in early November and I haven't been in touch and she hasn't either. I will send her a lengthy letter I have composed. She can do with it as she likes. I ain't going back. She can come to me and I won't turn her away. It's up to her. Finally she must reach out. I told her I would leave any abuser, including her. But I keep re-writing the letter. I am wasting a lot of paper with reprints.
comment by tealstar on Dec 9, 2008 5:09 AM ()
comment by nittineedles on Dec 8, 2008 2:21 PM ()
I am sure that you were the best mother you knew how to be and I am sorry that your daughters don't bring you joy.
comment by elderjane on Dec 8, 2008 3:52 AM ()
Hi Sue. I will pray for you'all. I don't know how you
believe, But at the very worst, It can't hurt.
comment by larryb on Dec 7, 2008 7:16 PM ()
Sue, so sorry you are going through this. Am still going through my dysfunction with sister, too, whose husband has her convinced I am villain for not "respecting" him after he abused me. I am about to cut her loose for good.
comment by tealstar on Dec 7, 2008 6:50 PM ()
I understand.
comment by anniel on Dec 7, 2008 3:40 PM ()
I am so sorry to hear you have to deal with this nonsense.I was in the same boat once.I was working 60-70 hours a week to take care of my kids,both boys.I am still the only parent in their lives.They only call me when they need something.I hope you have a nice holiday.Don't let your son-in-law ruin it for you.Laurie
comment by dogsalot on Dec 7, 2008 2:02 PM ()
Too bad she's stuck in the past like that. I had a lot of issues with my parents (who are both dead now) but came to terms with it when I got sober at age 30. Hope she finds a way to come to terms with it too!
comment by jjoohhnn on Dec 7, 2008 1:22 PM ()

Comment on this article   


759 articles found   [ Previous Article ]  [ Next Article ]  [ First ]  [ Last ]