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More on My Neighbor

My neighbor who is now taking two 1000 mg. of hydrocodone every four hours says it just is not "holding her."
So, she called her doctor who added a morphine tablet morning and night. 
This woman is addicted, in my opinion and that of others here,  and her doctor is enabling her to become even more addicted.  He added the morphine without even having her come into the office.
I have trouble avoiding this woman because everytime I open my door to go out on my patio, here she comes out on hers.  I KNOW she listens for my door to open and close.
The other day she said that she knew she could depend on me for "anything."  I told her that she should NOT assume that because I made a decision long ago NOT to get too involved in other people's lives.
"My personal well being and that of my family are really my priorities," I said. 
"Well, I know," she said, "but I don't think you would let me down if I really needed your help."
"Don't count on that," I said, "because I might."
"I just like visiting with you," she said.
I don't know how to make it any clearer to her than that. 
Her next door neighbor has completely quit speaking to her and won't return her calls.  She cannot figure out why.  But I can.  She immediately began expecting this woman to do too much for her.
She told me yesterday that she hung up on one of her children when he told her that 90 per cent of her pain was "in her head."
Her children refuse to take her to see any more doctors or give her any financial support because, I think they believe she will just spend the money to find another doctor to give her more narcotics.
She swears she has fibromyalgia; but, so far as I can tell, she has never seen a rheumatologist, who is the only physician capable of making a decision about that disease.
There are NO tests for it, but there are certain criteria that he can ascertain to determine if her problem is arthritis or fibromyalgia.
At any rate, I did some research on fibromyalgia and she is not taking any of the recommended drugs to treat it. 
I really wish I were not in such close proximity to this woman.  I truly enjoy sitting out on my patio, but I just don't want to listen to her complain.   
 

posted on Apr 7, 2011 7:58 AM ()

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I know it can be difficult to NOT be rude, but remember that she is completely disrespecting you to insinuate herself into your life when you have made it clear that you want nothing to do with her.
comment by dragonflyby on Apr 8, 2011 8:56 AM ()
I tried to without being so rude as to hurt her feelings; but so far it's not working.
reply by redimpala on Apr 8, 2011 11:21 AM ()
It's kind of funny, picturing her trying to get you to concede that you would help her in a pinch, and you standing firm. Hang in there Joan, maybe she'll self-destruct.
comment by troutbend on Apr 7, 2011 9:42 PM ()
After I had cancer, I just made up my mind that I was going to put myself first. All my life I have been a giver to others and too many people have taken advantage of that.
reply by redimpala on Apr 8, 2011 11:22 AM ()
It is a shame that you cannot enjoy your own patio. I would put a screen
up on her side so she couldn't see me. Look at thrift shops and you can
probably find one.
comment by elderjane on Apr 7, 2011 5:13 PM ()
I think I will just have to forego using my patio until she gets the hint.
reply by redimpala on Apr 8, 2011 11:25 AM ()
I have had severe diagnosed fibromyalgia for 20 years, and I can tell you the meds this woman is taking are the last things a reputable rheumatologist would prescribe. This woman is an addict and codependent. The only place I would drive her is to rehab. Please keep your distance for you own sake, Joan.
comment by marta on Apr 7, 2011 11:16 AM ()
Thank you for your advice, Marta. I had already figured that out. I am just going to start going back in when she comes out. I don't need to get involved in this woman's problems.
reply by redimpala on Apr 7, 2011 12:15 PM ()
Or a big"NO,NO.You have to day No period.
comment by fredo on Apr 7, 2011 10:16 AM ()
I know, but I have always helped people if they truly needed it. But I see too many things about this woman that I just do not like. I will not allow myself to get entangled in her life though.
reply by redimpala on Apr 7, 2011 10:54 AM ()
'She immediately began expecting this woman to do too much for
her.' And now she has found you! I know it is hard but ignore her, don't respond to her, just constantly say "Sorry, I don't have time!"
comment by greatmartin on Apr 7, 2011 9:24 AM ()
I'm going to have to just come back in the house and tell her I'm busy. I know you are right about this.
reply by redimpala on Apr 7, 2011 10:55 AM ()

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