I just came from FB where I replied to this comment:
"This whole thing is making me sick. I have a man that I love...I have a son that I love...I have many male friends that I cherish and love. The concept that a woman could come forward, charge sexually inappropriate behavior....BUT...not sure when it happened...not sure where it happened...not sure how she got there, or how she got home...but sure that it happened, and that it was HIM. I have more respect for my guys than this bullshit. I want an abused woman to be heard. But what about our men...our sons and grandsons? We just let anyone say whatever they want??!!"
Granted, it's a different time since I was young but I'm not convinced that young males have changed all that much.
I was in a YWCA dorm room, on a Friday evening circa 1972, when a similar incident to what's currently in the news occurred. I was with my girlfriend and the guy was a buddy who I brought along to hang out with her friend. Unfortunately, my gf was rather stoned at the time and for whatever reason, I didn't pay much mind to the commotion on the other side of the room.
When all was said and done we were all questioned/lectured on Tuesday but there were no serious consequences for anyone. Hard as I try to put myself in that young woman's place, I know I can't imagine all the subtleties that go with the event. I know she wasn't physically harmed, but as the situation unfolded that Friday evening, she had no way of knowing how it would turn out. What stopped the incident from ending in rape? I don't know. Did I finally intervene? I don't remember. Where was the Y? Probably in Manhattan. The room number--not a clue.
My gf had no real knowledge of the situation. We went to my house for the weekend and she didn't find out what happened until she saw her friend when the new week began. She was sufficiently pissed at my for whatever reason, although at this point, I don't clearly remember.
Since I can't think about it from a woman's POV, I can only ask: should this incident be held against my buddy 40 years later? I still know where he is although I don't ever remember talking about this since it happened. But I have no idea where the woman is. It would be interesting to hear her recollection of that evening.
As much as I want to see Kavanaugh denied a seat on the Court, I'm not convinced that this should be the deciding factor.