I drove past the cemetery where my Dad is buried today. I was coming home from work, and I made a slight detour in my normal route to swing by the place. However, when I got there, I didn't go in.
My Dad died six and a half years ago, and the last time I was at his gravesite was the day of his funeral.
He would have been 76 years old this past Monday, Dec. 15.
When he was alive, I saw him pretty near every day for the last twenty years. We worked together in the family business.
We fought a lot.
Dad and I had different goals and different views of the world...but we loved each other.
I particularly loved him for the way that he tried to shield me from a brutal and out-of-control mother. He would take my side and get between us...and he would pay Hell for it afterwards.
I haven't visited his gravesite even once in six and a half years.
Is that wrong?
I'm feeling guilty.
I almost went in today. Almost. I drove right up the entrance of the cemetery...then I chickened out.
I even got out of the car right there and looked through the fence, looking for the site. But my legs felt like jelly, and my head went numb. So I just got back in the car and drove slowly away.
I don't know what stopped me. I just knew that I couldn't go in there. Not yet. Maybe not ever.
Again I ask, is that wrong?
I loved my Dad.
Still do.
I miss him like crazy today.
Happy Birthday, old man.