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Life & Events > Relationships > Is This Really Me?????
 

Is This Really Me?????

I
registered at a free dating web site  www.PlentyofFish.com  (I LOVE
that title) which includes a personality test--this was my result--what
do you think?/ Wonder how many dates I will get?  :O)










Congratulations! You just completed the Plenty of Fish Chemistry
Predictor!


The Plenty of Fish Compatibility Predictor (CP) measures five broad
relationship variables that are each essential for building romantic
relationships. People don't need to score "high" on each of these
characteristics to be in a fulfilling relationship. What's important is how your
profile interacts with the profile of a potential romantic partner -- or what is
commonly called “chemistry.” Based on decades of empirical research in the
social sciences, the CP captures the five key ingredients that can determine
whether or not two people have the “right” psychological chemistry. The
relationship variables are:
Self-Confidence, or the degree to which a person feels comfortable
with him or herself. People that are high in self-confidence tend to be
assertive and competent in both their private and public relationships. People
that are low in self-confidence tend to be reticent and somewhat anxious.
Family Orientation, or the degree to which a person supports and
values the family. People that are family-oriented tend to want or already have
children, are very close to their immediate relatives and prefer cooking at home
to eating at a restaurant. People that are not family-oriented tend to be
individualistic, unconventional and very much enjoy attending parties and social
functions.
Self-Control, or the extent to which a person exerts control over
various aspects of life. People that are high in self-control tend have strong
emotional reactions to things and try to regulate those feelings by
micromanaging and attending to specific details. People that are low in
self-control are usually relaxed, even-tempered and lenient.
Openness, or the extent to which a person is open to and dependent
upon others. People that are high in openness tend to like a wide range of
things (e.g., food, music, movies, etc.), in part because they are concerned
with pleasing other people. In contrast, people low in openness are very
independent and opinionated; they know what they like and aren’t apt to change
their opinion.
Easygoingness, or a person’s work ethic and degree of mental
flexibility. People that are high in easygoingness are very relaxed, broadminded
and unaffected by change. In contrast, people low in easygoingness tend be
hardworking, firm, and sometimes inflexible.
IMPORTANT: Before reading your profile, remember that the report is
based on generalizations from research on an international validation sample.
Some feedback may not apply to your case. For instance, we know that overall
those scoring "moderate or high" on Family Orientation tend to either want
children soon or are open to the idea in the future. However, this
generalization may not be accurate for all moderate and high scorers. Use these
results for self-awareness and self-reflection...and hopefully as a conversation
piece with other Plenty of Fish members!



Your Chemistry Test Results













Self-Confidence



As someone with high self-confidence, you feel quite
comfortable interacting with other people. Indeed, you find the company of
others very stimulating and enjoy meeting new people. Your relaxed demeanor in
groups makes people around you comfortable too. Perhaps because you feel
comfortable talking about yourself, others tend to enjoy being around you and
perceive you as socially competent.

The confidence that helps you feel
comfortable talking to people also spills into your own personal beliefs about
yourself. Although you have several strengths, it’s likely that you also
acknowledge and accept your weaknesses. But unlike some people, you take full
responsibility for your actions—you rarely regret things you’ve done in the past
and are not embarrassed easily.

Perhaps the defining feature that sets
you apart from most people is the exceptionally high standards that you set for
yourself. Your competence in social gatherings as well as at work should provide
ample evidence for this. With these characteristics, it’s very likely that
people come to you for advice and generally think of you as someone with
leader-like qualities.


Family Orientation



As someone who respects family values, you tend
to enjoy the company of family-members and are open to living a domestic life.
If you have children already, you enjoy spending time with them very much and
work hard to be a good parent, but may occasionally wish to “cut-loose” and let
your true colors show. If you don’t have children, you probably desire having a
family sometime in the distant future. Although you occasionally enjoy cooking
at home, you also like going to restaurants. This has the potential to create
added stress as you transition into parenthood.

You are attracted to the
idea of having a family and may be willing to work hard to achieve this,
although not necessarily any time soon. This conflict is illustrated by the fact
that you don’t mind doing things around the house—like cooking and entertaining
guests—on the one hand. But, on the other hand, you also like going to
restaurants and parties. It’s possible that in time you might prefer spending
time at home more because you won’t feel like you’re missing anything when you
don’t go out.

One aspect of yourself that makes you likely to become more
family oriented is that you generally know how to manage your frustrations and
work well on your own. This means that you have some of the basic ingredients to
enjoy family life. Maintaining a tidy home, keeping a well-stocked kitchen, and
making sure the kids are safe is a tough job. So attending to these things,
while also taking care of yourself, may prove somewhat difficult for
you.


Self-Control



The self-control personality dimension captures the way
in which a person regulates and directs him or herself. Being low in
self-control can be both good and bad. Occasionally people may be compelled to
follow their intuitions and give in to their temptations, and your degree of
self-control makes this likely to happen more often than not. This can be good
in circumstances where being relaxed and open are important. However, in
situations where it is necessary to be focused and careful, you might find that
you do or say things that may be inappropriate.

As someone who exerts
little control over your actions, you may find that you commit social blunders
that might offend other people and get yourself in trouble. For example, if
you’re given responsibility to work on a project that requires close attention
to detail, you may be likely to overlook important details because you have
difficulty staying focused. Consequently, you might feel more comfortable
delegating such tasks to other people who are more detail oriented. Being able
to recognize such characteristics in yourself and having more detail-oriented
people do such tasks could be an effective way to manage your own stress level.


Low self-control may diminish your effectiveness at work. Acting too
relaxed can make it difficult for you to focus on projects that require
organized sequences of steps or stages. Thus, your ability to accomplish may be
inconsistent. Indeed, it’s possible that you might be criticized periodically
for being unreliable or unable to “stay within the lines.” Nonetheless, you may
still experience many short-lived pleasures and never be thought of as
boring.


Openness



As someone moderate in openness, you have an appreciation
for art and nature, but are also down to earth and realistic. On the one hand,
it’s likely that you are fond of music and art, and on the other hand, enjoy and
appreciate things that have a clear point and some sort of practical
utility.

Additionally, you have a certain degree of awareness of your own
emotions; that is, you tend to notice when you’re feeling a particular way and
take those feelings into account when making decisions.
You tend to think in
both abstract ways—in terms of metaphors—and logically. Therefore, in your work
and free time, you enjoy activities that get your “creative juices” flowing, but
are also able to keep your mind on the primary objective of the task at hand.


Your tendency to be both open-minded, yet realistic is generally quite
advantageous. For instance, when there are no clear rules about how to approach
a particular problem, your openness makes it easy for you to identify new ways
to solve problems that might not be very obvious to people that are not as open
as you are. However, because you are also realistic-minded, you are able
follow-rules quite easily. This combination makes it easy for you to excel in
your work because you are able to “think outside the box” while still being able
to keep your eyes on “the big picture.”


Easygoingness



Easygoingness refers to one's ability to relax. Based
on your score, you appear to “take things as they come” and enjoy having a good
time. However, being high in easygoingness also has the potential to produce
stress in a number of ways. For example, you may find it difficult to complete
tasks thoroughly and efficiently. In this way, being high in easygoingness
cannot only make your life difficult, but also the lives of the people around
you. Another potential problem with being too high in easygoingness is that it
can provide you with gratification in the short-term, but in the long-term
provide undesirable consequences.

High easygoingness, even when not
seriously destructive, may also diminish your effectiveness at work, for
example. You may find it aversive and difficult to put in all the effort that
may sometimes be needed to effectively accomplish certain tasks. For this
reason, your colleagues might view you as forgetful and unfocused.


How does your personality affect your love life?




Given the
strong degree of confidence that you have, it’s no surprise that you get along
well with most people. Indeed, it’s self-confidence that allows people to feel
comfortable interacting with others without feeling insecure and vulnerable. For
this reason, you shouldn’t have much difficulty in romance, at least not
initially. Your social skills will likely help relieve any anxiety your romantic
partners might have on those first few dates. However, over time, the high
standards that you have for yourself could potentially frustrate your partner.


Because you respect family values but appreciate a good night out on the
town, you probably get along well with people that are different from you. For
this reason, you would probably be quite content in a romantic relationship with
someone who shares your same values on these issues. Being in a relationship
with someone who enjoys going out to parties and staying-up late at night might
be fun, at least initially; yet it’s likely that you will find this tiring over
time. Thus, it might be easier and more satisfying for you to develop a
long-lasting relationship with a person who enjoys both spending time at home
and going out to eat.

As someone who is more relaxed than most people,
you likely get along with most people quite well. Chances are that your friends
and colleagues perceive you as lively, fun to be with, and good-humored. When it
comes to romance, you’ll likely be attracted to most people. However, your
free-spirited nature might make being in a relationship with a person that is
more rigid than you difficult because you might perceive the person as being too
uptight and controlling.

Your openness probably makes it easy for you to
respect and appreciate people that are different from you. However, you may
become frustrated with people that are too unconventional or traditional.
Therefore, you may be happiest in serious relationships with people that share
both your open-mindedness and realistic nature.



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