Forty
one years ago I discovered Transactional Analysis which was originated
by Eric Berne and it has been extremely helpful in getting along in/with
life, especially during the hard times. One of the things Berne
emphasized, and wrote a big, best selling book, called "The Games People
Play". People are still playing games and I have seen it more so on
blogging posts. The one thing that a person has to keep in mind is that
it takes two people to play these games and if one stops--the smarter
one--the game is over and the 'player' will look for someone else to get
involved with their games.

I
do suggest that you read the 4 following books in the order I list them
if you are interested in finding how you got where you are and how you
can, easily, change things: "I'm Okay--You're Okay" by Thomas Harris and
"Born To Win" by Muriel James and Dorothy Jongeward explain what
Transactional Analysis is and how/why you do certain things in your life
while "Games People Play" by Eric Berne goes more into what the purpose
of this blog is while last,  but not least, "Loneliness: The Fear of
Love" by Ira J. Tanner in which the author shows you how to become aware
of the nature of your emotional choices and points to why you can
be/are lonely in a marriage, a family, when being with others.

My
main focus on this post is to get into the games people play with each
other even though they are losing games and make each one feel worse
until the games stop.

I
have seen, and even played a couple of these games until I realized
what I was doing, stopped, and watched them go on to play with other
people, in the field of blogging. Now before you jump to conclusions
like, "He is talking about me!" or "Well, he certainly isn't talking
about me," remember that my blog is posted at 9 different blogging
sites.

Now
some of these games are 'amusing' in the sense we can read teenagers
blogs and their 'heart break', 'he/she doesn't even know I exist', 'my
parents don't understand me', 'I HATE---- (you fill in the blank)"
because we have been there, know how serious they are and yet also know a
year or two from now they won't even remember who they are talking
about.

It
is the others--the destructive ones--the ones who are at a standstill
in their life and don't know how, or want, to change the misery they
have embraced, the ones who get drunk and don't see it as a problem, the
ones who are living a loveless life by choice but not knowing how, or
why,  they made that choice, the ones who have compromised to the point
that they have lost themselves, the ones who can't fathom being alone
and not being lonely and those who are losers but think they are winners
because they think they are winning the games they play. The ones who
are in relationships they don't want to be in but feel they have no
choice or settle for less than they should have.

Some
of the biggest games are: "Yes, but...", "Poor Little Me". "The
Injustice Collector", "Kick Me", "Uproar", "Negative Attention Is Better
Than No Attention At All", "Debtor", "Ain't It Awful", "If It Weren't
For You I could", "Now I've Got You You SOB!" to name a few.

Games
are time structuring devices which keep people apart and from getting
on with their lives. I believe the biggest game played by bloggers is
the "Negative Attention Is Better Than No Attention At All," and I will
talk about that and how so many bloggers post negative things about
themselves, the other games mentioned and a few I have played not
realizing I was falling back into old tapes in my head until I did/do
and withdraw from the games .

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I live most of my life now game free but I do admit finding
myself in the middle of one before I realize (like just recently) but
then I drop out of the game and the other player(s) flounder around
either looking for other players or other games-- do yourself a favor
and live your life as game free as you can.

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For more information go to: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transactional_Analysis