I think you did a good job expressing what you feel and believe, and did it in a manner so as not to be disrespectful or judgmental. I was raised to believe that homosexuality is a sin, and also that marriage is for one man and one woman. That is not to say that that is how I believe now. I understand that there are a lot of gay and lesbian people and although I may not "accept" it fully I do recognize it as a choice and respect that. I am still unsure about gay marriage. But I still treasure my gay friends, past and present, and respect them for following their hearts. I understand too what it is to lose a loved one to AIDS and to feel that loss even years later. You are doing as Jesus does, loving the "sinner" (all of us) and disapproving of the sin (which we all do). I wish there were more like you, Annie, that can distinguish between the two, sin and the sinner. No one needs to feel hated because of their sin, which unfortunately happens all too often.
It was so nice of you (NOT) to take care of the other kitty's cheese.
I am sorry to hear of the loss of your aunt. As for your dad, I understand all too well. It has taken me forty three years to get past the idea that somehow I have to have his approval and unconditional love to be whole. What I do know about you from your blogs, I see someone that is consciously doing his best in this life and trying to do right by others. Hang in there and keep moving forward as you always have.
Welcome back! I am Debbie, and it is nice to make your acquaintance.
RE: Taxes
The only reason he was asking about how you filed was so that he can prevent an audit. It was a simple question that needed a simple answer. Being that technically the two of you are married... it is in the best interest to the both of you to resolve this in an adult manner. comment by rocki8281971 on Nov 6, 2008 11:16 PM (EST) [ reply ] Certainly you could answer this question for him, as even though you are not married but have children I am certain that you have filed Head of Household as well as I have. If he wants to prevent an audit, especially considering that he is self-employed, then he should have filed taxes each year. The only year that I filed Married Separately was in 2003. I don't think that I can get any more adult than that. Besides, my biggest beef is that he has the nerve to tell me exactly where I live (which is none of his business), and then now, you are answering a post that if were replied to I would think it should be him, as this has nothing to do with you. reply by busymichmom on Nov 6, 2008 11:40 PM (EST)
All information necessary to know how I filed my taxes is included in the above comment and reply. To recap, I filed Married Separately in 2003, and Head of Household every year after.
RE: Divorce
I was going to reply on Gary’s blog but chose not to because there are not notifications of comments here for when someone comments on your blog, only when hey reply. As an “old-timer†I remember when Gary would come into chats and curse you out, this was before his one year absence and say horrible things. You never opened your mouth which was probably for the best yet he kept ranting and you firmly and quietly stood your ground as it was your right to blog there too. Seems to me people mistakenly mistake silence for an admission of guilt and I will not take sides on this at all because domestic issues are not something one wants to get in the middle of and most to have more tact than to take sides. I do have a question though for Gary because two years ago it was the same old thing, “Give me your address so I can divorce you.†I do have a problem with that because you(Gary) Have harped on this for some time and because of this it seems to me she may have very good reason not to do this because if you honestly want this divorce you do not even need her address. I read on a Michigan law website: If the filing spouse has made a 'good faith effort' to locate the missing spouse, and can swear under oath and penalty of perjury that they do not know the current whereabouts of the respondent and have made an effort to locate them, the missing respondent can be 'served' by publication of a notice in a local newspaper. Maybe you did not know this. I dunno. I just figured if you really want this to end and did not have the information, I could be helpful but if you do have the info, well, bad on you. Like other folks I am sure you both want this ugliness to end. comment by mmmhollywould on Nov 16, 2008 12:03 AM (EST) [ reply ]
Since you can tell me where I live, then getting my address can't be all that difficult either. My name, address, and phone number is publicly listed in the Yellowbook.
I wish I had an answer for you. You are doing the best you can, and continue being Momma bear. You are looking out for their best interests, and I know it is hard having to do that for their relationship with their dad too. I've been there and I am still there, having to deal with my daughter's dad. Hang in there. You aren't alone in this.
It's okay to complain. The dollar doesn't go nearly as far any more. Even though everyone is cutting back, we are still blessed to have a roof over our heads and food in our stomachs. I am grateful for the simple blessings that money can't buy. Good post!
I didn't know that she was a lesbian, but she is one of my favorite comedienne actresses. I think she is hilarious. I guess that would make me a fan, huh?!?
I am so glad you had a perfect birthday - you deserve it! About winter...it is on it's way (sorry). I posted a couple pics of our "dusting" of snow.
Good for you!
Thank you for your loving concern, Nena.
Those flowers are so pretty! I am glad things are more in synch now.
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