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Education > Teachers > This Bothers Me
 

This Bothers Me

Back at my other home a big news item these days is the case of the 31-year old female high school teacher who was caught late at night in a car having sex with a 16 year-old male student.

Her job was Instructional Coach, meaning that she coached the teachers in better teaching methods and she was the faculty person in charge of an after-school student club, so she did have some direct contact with students.

Yes, I agree what she was caught doing is wrong, and yes it was right for her to quit her job and that she will be punished with criminal penalties. And yes the court should have told her to stay out of contact with persons under 18 years of age.

What bothers me is that she has two young daughters under 5 years old and the court has denied her contact with them because now she is considered to be a child molester. "Prosecutor Renee Doak said she is uncomfortable with letting Bowles see the girls in person because no experts have assessed whether Bowles poses any risk to them."

For several weeks it was no contact at all. Finally, the judge grudgingly said she could talk to them for 30 minutes every other day with the husband listening in because she was very active in her daughters' life and it has been very stressful for them to suddenly cut off her relationship with them, as if she'd died.

I suppose if she'd been caught molesting young girls or if the 16 year old boy was non-consenting, I could understand this, but this seems like hair-splitting, nit-picking political-correctness over-kill.

I'm wondering if all those male teachers who are prosecuted for having sexual relations with their female students are subjected to the same bans with respect to their children. Guess I'll start paying more attention to the news articles about this kind of offense.

posted on Feb 10, 2011 6:30 PM ()

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lot of this stuff going on all over the place.Not surprised by any of this.
Look at all the news out there and even with the congress men doing it.
Yes,they seemed to be picking on her and surely all she needs a very good lawyer to get this straightened out.It is the law.
comment by fredo on Feb 11, 2011 11:29 AM ()
Guaranteed employment for lawyers.
reply by troutbend on Feb 11, 2011 4:39 PM ()
What a sad story. Since there's nothing I can do about it, I'll withhold my opinion.
comment by solitaire on Feb 11, 2011 6:33 AM ()
reply by troutbend on Feb 11, 2011 4:37 PM ()
It bothers me too. I know how boys that age are. She showed extremely
poor judgement on her part and her career is destroyed but to make her
desert her children is too drastic. I disagree with you about boundary
issues for the male, Marta. Teen age boys would screw a snake if it woulod hold still.
still.
comment by elderjane on Feb 11, 2011 6:04 AM ()
Well said lady!!!
reply by kristilyn3 on Feb 12, 2011 7:08 AM ()
One of the children is having a birthday and that has made it more painful for all that they can't see their mother.
reply by troutbend on Feb 11, 2011 4:36 PM ()
As the teenage boy was able to consent, to having sex with her, I don't think it warranted such a drastic action.
Sure, let her be stopped from teaching - but to take her children away? No.

comment by augusta on Feb 11, 2011 4:17 AM ()
Not that I wanted to start paying attention to this kind of story but now I'm curious about how other offenders are treated so I guess I will for awhile.
reply by troutbend on Feb 11, 2011 4:34 PM ()
Here is an article that looks at this issue in some reflective detail:
https://www.associatedcontent.com/article/273729/why_teachers_are_having_sex_with_their_pg3.html?cat=25

Perhaps you remember the case some years ago of teacher Mary Kay Letourneau, who had an obsessed sexual relationship with her 13-year-old male student and ended up having the young teen's baby. Caused a furor and was a national story. Does the age of the student make a difference? I would say yes, but it reflects serious boundary distortions for the adult and mental health concerns for both parties. In my area, in the past few years, in separate incidents, two male teachers were caught having sex with their 15-year-old female students, one was 15, the other 16. Both adults suffered the same exact fate as the woman teacher in your post.
comment by marta on Feb 10, 2011 7:56 PM ()
My point is not about the teachers having sex with students, of course that's wrong, I just think it's overkill to bar her from seeing her own daughters.
reply by troutbend on Feb 11, 2011 4:27 PM ()
I agree with you totally and it seems as if the sex police are out to punish her for her behavior -- kind of a moral judgment, but it had nothing to do with her children.
comment by tealstar on Feb 10, 2011 7:06 PM ()
I sense a double standard.
reply by troutbend on Feb 11, 2011 4:30 PM ()
Wow! I hadn't heard this and I am with you!!! Seems a bit far fetched to remover her from her children when she had consensual sex with a 16yo. Much different than a 10 yo, ya know? PUHLEAZE!
comment by kristilyn3 on Feb 10, 2011 6:34 PM ()
I wonder if this is a new national trend or specific to that county.
reply by troutbend on Feb 11, 2011 4:29 PM ()

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