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Two Plus Two

I have always had this gift of "reading between the lines."  While some people put two and two together only to arrive at five, I nearly always know that the answer is four.
Some people call this intuition, and that is a part of it; but it's more than that.  It is, for example, automatically knowing that one can learn a lot more about a person by what they DON'T say than by what they DO say and by what they DO as opposed to what they DON'T DO.   How loud a person protests that something is NOT true is also a good indication that it is indeed TRUE. We have all heard the expression, "Methinks thou doest protest too much."  Constantly trying to convince someone he is wrong is a strong indicator that the person is indeed right
For example, a woman tries to convince someone that she has a happy marriage; yet, in all the arguments she presents,  NOT ONE TIME does she mention that her husband is "in love" with her. 
Instead, she gives examples of his behavior.  He has never cheated, at least to her knowledge; he's a good father. However, some of the biggest cheaters in the world are very attentive fathers and even attentive husbands.  Means nothing.
Most men will give a form of love in exchange for sex and companionship; however, if they ever fall "in love" or have been "in love", they may leave that relationship if the right circumstances present themselves. 
In addition, people like this are NOT at all secure; they spy on their husbands, reading their personal correspondence and they spy on others whom they consider a threat.  A woman who is secure in her marriage and completely certain that her husband is IN LOVE with her would not waste her time.  There would be no need. Another tell-tell sign that all is not necessarily perfect in paradise. 
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In sales, there is a term for this type of behavior. Sales people call them "smoke screens." They are excuses people present as argument or fact as to the reason they will not buy when in fact they are neither. It is up to the sales person to fight through the smoke screens to discover the ultimate reality. Once the sales person diffuses all the smoke screens, he will make the sale. The same applies in life. Somewhere between the argument and "so-called facts" lies the truth.

However, to get through those smoke screens, the sales person may have to take the person out of his comfort zone. When "reading between the lines," again the individual may have to be brutally honest.

That makes people uncomfortable and they may accuse the person of being vengeful, spiteful, or hateful. That's not at all true. It is simply being pro-active. Statistics support the assumption that being pro-active is much more effective in reaching one's goal than being reactive. It's also the key to our simple little math problem.

Finally, if you come across a child whose birthday falls seven or eight months past the month in which a couple marries, it's a fairly safe bet it was a shotgun wedding.  It is not necessary to know WHAT YEAR the couple married if a person is adept at "reading between the lines."
And that's what I mean by stating that I nearly always know the answer is four.



posted on Dec 1, 2010 2:47 AM ()

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Good post. No smart-alecky comments from me this time.
comment by solitaire on Dec 2, 2010 6:34 AM ()
Thanks, Randy! Just calling it the way I see it!!
reply by redimpala on Dec 2, 2010 9:20 AM ()
I'm keeping my lips zipped.
comment by nittineedles on Dec 1, 2010 3:49 PM ()
Now, there's a wise woman!!!
reply by redimpala on Dec 2, 2010 1:21 AM ()
We all rely on intuition.
comment by elderjane on Dec 1, 2010 9:25 AM ()
We do, but mine goes even beyond intuition. Read my response to Augusta.
reply by redimpala on Dec 2, 2010 1:21 AM ()
And what DON'T I say??????????????????????????????
comment by greatmartin on Dec 1, 2010 8:22 AM ()
Won't really matter. I can read you like a book, dear Martin.
reply by redimpala on Dec 2, 2010 1:20 AM ()
I completely agree with you. call it what you will, but I call it 'womans intuition', 'gut feeling' - whatever.
I also think this 'knowledge' can be put to use in other aspects too. I find it very helpful. I have learned to trust this instinct.
comment by augusta on Dec 1, 2010 5:38 AM ()
All my life I have had a keen sense of intuition; however, I sometimes think I am also a bit psychic because once my intuition sends a signal that two and two is not adding up to four, I find I can deduce what the truth really is even with tons of gaps in the scenario. People have asked me at various times HOW I knew something. I really can't tell them. I just KNOW it, sometimes when everything points away from it actually being the way I know it to be.
reply by redimpala on Dec 2, 2010 1:18 AM ()
I agree that a person of experience and attention to verbal and physical signals can intuit much about what is going on. It's maddening, isn't it, for people to disagree with your perception, when you know you have hit on the truth. It is astonishing to me, for instance, that anyone with an ounce of intelligence, can watch Limbaugh and Beck, and think they are getting any truth at all.
comment by tealstar on Dec 1, 2010 5:19 AM ()
That's because these people do not apply logic and reasoning to their arguments. It has been my experience that when I apply logic, reasoning, and fact to their arguments that they usually respond with name-calling. They have their flimsy excuses diffused, so they resort to personal attacks as their last line of defense. It's childish and immature; but I have seen it happen time and again.
reply by redimpala on Dec 2, 2010 1:14 AM ()

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