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Just Breaks My Heart.

I just went to my friend's Facebook page to see if there was any news about her husband's cause of death.
She had posted that one of her daughters has said she can't wait to die, so that she can go to Heaven to be with Daddy. The other, however, is angry and upset with her father. She feels he has left them so he can just go off and do his own thing.
How do you possibly explain to small children the sudden loss of their daddy when you don't even understand it yourself?

posted on May 19, 2011 11:02 AM ()

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My heart goes out to them... and you.

comment by marta on May 21, 2011 1:10 PM ()

So very sad. Accepting the death of a loved one is such a hard thing. I feel badly for these children.

comment by dragonflyby on May 20, 2011 8:39 AM ()

It takes a lifetime to come to terms with death. Too bad that these
children are so confused.

comment by elderjane on May 20, 2011 7:38 AM ()

That is hard....

comment by kristilyn3 on May 19, 2011 4:13 PM ()

Yes, it is. I hope she can find the wisdom to assuage some of the pain and guilt these precious little girls are experiencing over the loss of their daddy.

reply by redimpala on May 20, 2011 7:14 AM ()

I think some of it has to do with how the adults around the children react and what they tell the children about death. If they make it sound like: 'Your daddy is in a better place. God liked your daddy so much he invited him up to heaven for a party.' no wonder the kids think they are missing out. From a child's point of view it'd be impossible to grasp what is going on, they have to live with it for several years to get a perspective of what death means.

comment by troutbend on May 19, 2011 2:28 PM ()

hey are religious people, so she probably would have talked to them about Daddy going to Heaven. I know Alex well enough to know that she would do it in such a way that they would not feel their father had abandoned them and would rather be in Heaven than with them. As you said, it takes years for a person to fully comprehend that the cycle of life naturally involves death, and that it comes sooner for some than others.

reply by redimpala on May 19, 2011 2:41 PM ()

How do you explain to old adults why a young father/husband is taken from them?

comment by greatmartin on May 19, 2011 11:52 AM ()

There's only one thing that helps grief, and that is time.

reply by redimpala on May 19, 2011 2:42 PM ()

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