She's got it good. She really does. I don't know if she understands how "relationship wise", just how good it is with me.
I was sitting here on the computer. Suddenly "Roxann" gets a call from her son (she was in the other room). I listen, she says to him "If you wanna take me there, you better be ready before noon. I have a really busy day planned". humm I think to myself, well it's Saturday tomorrow (her day off).. and I had no idea she planned to go anywhere or do anything. I felt we needed to talk.
I went to the "Kitchen". I said.. Roxann, if your planning on going somewhere all day.. I hope you thought about getting me some beer first (she will be taking the car). Yes Hun, of course. That was my plan. First get you a 12 pack, then I am taking off with my girlfriends. Kristy, Kendra, and maybe a few others. OK I say, what you all gonna do. I am not sure yet.. I am not sure how long we will be either. Ok Hun (I say), because it really doesn't matter to me. She says "I know", I just forgot to mention it.
See, this is why our relationship works. FREEDOM is the best word to describe. I know she wasn't hiding anything from me. I know if she felt I needed anything (or wanted to do something) it would be ok too. We both trust eachother,, and neither would cheat (I believe). I can say for myself.. I'll go to tittie bars or whatever, but I don't cheat, and do live very honest in talk and action. She has freedom, I have freedom. It's "Freedom with trust".
One of the reasons I feel things went sour with "BusyMidMich" mom on here.. was the trust thing. Not that I did anything wrong (cheating was the last of her worries). But she percieved that "I" (Like both her ex husbands, and others) was out to get her. She thought everyone was. I never was.. I can say that. I was the one to take her to the hospital for all those visits, was the one taking pills from her mouth during all the suicide attempts. Somehow, in her twisted mind.. she thought "calling 911", or pulling a knife from her hand was against her. Wasn't.. never was. I personally think.. if Debbie wasn't so "messed in the head".. we could've worked out. That is after she got her clear thinking. I am still not against her. I did however tell her "pastor dad" she was trying to kill herself, and some of her friends. I kinda wanted them to "intervene", because I was about to "wash my hands" of the deal. I did all I could, I just wanted those she loved to know the truth. I did do that, I don't regret.. and I have moved on. But I will NEVER sit here, listen to her "blatent lies" and say "your right". LOL.. I know the truth.
Relationships can go so good.. if there is "TRUST". That's the key. Why do some women worry if a man looks at another (that's natural). If your worried he does, it's because your insecure about something, or don't trust him. Trust is anything.. sexual, finances.. jeez... if you can't talk and be honest to eachother.. don't be together. That's my theory.
Roxann and I get along pretty well. I am 42 now. She was 14 when she first met me while I was set up in a mall. On and off through the years, we seen eachother. Friends, or she babysat, or a casual "sex thing".. lol. Wasn't however till I came back from Florida that we had a real relationship. I have to say.. I am not sure why I didn't before. I get along with her, better then most anyone I ever met (cept when she's on the rag or sumptin)...
Yep... She's got it good!, so do I :)
Gary