Her:
Gary, I just don't understand him. He doesn't show me attention. We do nothing together anymore.

Gary (me):
Ok, well what do you think the problem might be?

Her:
I don't know, he's mad all the time.. Mad at me, mad at my kids. Just he's "mad" basically.

Gary:
When's the last time you had sex?

Her:
It's been way over a month. I'm not gonna give him "anything", when he acts like that.

Gary:
Does he want "sex"? Does he ask for it? Try for it?

Her:
Constantly!! He won't stop talking about it. Damn sure I won't give him anything!

Gary:
I think I see the problem here. See, your being a "prude ass Bitch". You know he want's sex.. and you won't let him in. But also, he's being a "dick". He isn't nice to you or anyone.. He has some things he wants too... You both have needs, and neither will give an inch.

Her:
What do we do?

Gary:
You just talk. Get him to talk to you directly. Don't go pulling his ass to a "therapist" or anything like that. If he happens to be "close" to how I am, I'd "spit" on that idea. I'll run the first time a woman says "therapist". One of the things I would be willing to do is "talk". That's if I felt she really wanted "talk", not bitching or control. At least to me.. it would be the only thing that would work.

Her:
Gary, if I even bring that up. Even the talk... He will "run" and get mad!!

Gary:
How long did you say it was you "cut him off"? Last time for "sex" was over a month? Of course he is pissed. He's gonna be "teased" by all the guys. He's gonna be mad. His balls probably look like "softballs".

Her:
Your not helping Gary!

Gary:
Yes I am.. I just want you to realize something. He wants a good relationship with you as much as you do. If you were "done" you wouldn't even talk to me (or anyone).

He needs to feel you care about his things too. Listen, guys are quite "simplistic" really. He wants sex. He wants to keep you happy. He doesn't know how tho...

OMG.. I should start a "Dr Gary show". I'd show that "Dr Phil a thing or two.. lol.

Anyway...

You get off into "Bitching" far too quick. Don't even say you don't, cause I never met a woman that doesn't. LISTEN.. your man really needs to feel you will "listen to him too", without you bitching.

Most men are really "ready" for a "good talk" with their woman". They listen too. Just.. on your part "women" you gotta hold back a little and just listen to them a bit. From my personal experience. Most times I tried to get into a "serious talk" with a woman.. she "interjected" her things in before I could say a sentence. Always made me run.

Most men will really "listen" to you if they feel they can talk "free" for a few. I kinda understand the "woman thing" too. It's like, the men "never listen".. so when they decide to have a talk.. you wanna "Talk your ass off and give them no chance". Listen ladies, if a man says to you "he is ready to talk".. Give him his "say". Men are "Not relationship" talkers. If they tell you they want too... let them talk. Or, they turn away.

Ok.. I'm done. How many words does it take to just say "figure out how to talk to eachother"...

gary :)