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Something unfortunate has developed since I moved back to North Texas. Bevan's mother lives in Waxahatchie, which is about an hour south of Dallas.  It seems she was VERY unhappy that I moved back to Dallas and expressed that to Bevan, who told her that I had a right to live wherever I wanted.Â
She evidently said some things to Bevan intimating that I had been trying to turn people against her. Bevan asked Holly about it, and Holly told him that the only time I had ever even mentioned Jill to her was when Jill tried to hog all the holidays, and that irritated Mom.Â
She then began saying all sorts of negative things about me to Bailey and Mackenzie, who promptly told their parents and me what she had been saying.
She even went so far as to tell Bailey that I would not leave the room when she was born so that she could come in to see her. That was, of course, ridiculous. I went out to tell her the minute Bailey was born but told her it would be a few minutes before anyone could come in.
I went back to the room where the doctor was still working with Holly following the birth.  About three minutes later, she opened the door and started to  barge in. The nurse turned to me and said that she couldn't come in, so I relayed to her that she would have to wait...that she could not come in yet.Â
I don't think Holly would have appreciated having her mother-in-law see her in the birthing position as the doctor finished with the process of delivering a baby.
In addition, the nurses were still cleaning Bailey, weighing her, measuring her, and checking her vital signs. They had not yet even dressed her or wrapped her in a blanket.
At any rate, she called and wanted the girls this weekend to take them to a Santa parade. Bailey flatly refused to go; and if Bailey wasn't going, Kenzie wasn't either. So, Holly had to tell her that the girls were still getting over colds and probably shouldn't be out in the weather.
Bailey told both her mother and me that she didn't want to be around her anymore because all she ever did was run people down. So, I went over to keep them Friday night while Holly and Bevan went to her company Christmas party.
"I would much rather be here with Mom, Dad and you than with her," she stated.
What she has succeeded in doing is alienating her grandchildren who did not appreciate one bit her comments about me and evidently other people as well.
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posted on Dec 8, 2010 8:51 AM ()
I don't know if it's possible to "charm her" into standing down since she is apparently married to her disagreeable disposition. It's obvious that she wants to have everything her way. Sorry for this situation.
No! She has been this way as long as I have known her. Everything that goes wrong in her life is someone's elses fault. She is a very unhappy person who blames the world for her problems.
comment by redimpala on Dec 8, 2010 7:06 PM ()
She is going to end up very isolated and alone. So sad.
Hope you are feeling better, Joan!
Hope you are feeling better, Joan!
Sadly, there is at least one in every family. 
I feel very sorry for Jill, Joan. Could this negative meltdown be a sign of illness?
I thought mothers, especially grandmothers, according to their contracts were not permitted to get colds?!?!?!
comment by greatmartin on Dec 8, 2010 10:33 AM ()
I guess someone forgot to tell this pesky little bug to leave me alone, because it certainly took up residence in my head and chest with a vengeance.
Unfortunately, no family can be 'happy' all, of the time, but, hopefully things will work out for the best with you
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This is wonderful for her. Perhaps you could have a private conversation with Jill and bring this out in the open.