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So somethings been bugging me, maybe I’m just over-reacting. I made the mistake of letting two people know my income information, two friends that is. One of them I knew wouldn’t say anything because she’s been working for awhile. So I knew she'd probably keep quiet and not reveal anything.
I also told my best friend, but I forgot he can’t keep his big mouth shut to his girlfriend. Sometimes he just blurts things to her before even thinking that maybe, out of respect for me as a friend, he ought to keep it to himself. And I also forgot that his girlfriend can’t really keep anything to herself either.
I was chatting with a friend online and found out she knew my hourly wage at work. I was curious to know how she came about with this information. Awhile back, she was talking to my best friend and his girlfriend, and in their conversation my best friend's girlfriend blurted out my hourly wage to whomever was around. I’m a bit upset because I told my best friend that out of confidence. I never said explicitly, “keep this to yourselfâ€, but thought he would know. And I honestly don’t trust his girlfriend with anything concerning money.
My senses go off for some reason … something just feel’s awry sometimes when money is concerned with her. Maybe I’m being paranoid about it. Do people even tell their friends about how much they make? Or is this personal information that’s only kept within family? After learning from my mistake, the only people who shall know my income from now on are myself and my immediate family.
Also, maybe I shouldn’t trust my friend as much anymore. It sucks to know that when I tell him something in confidence, he’ll probably end up telling his girlfriend. Do people do these things in a relationship, never keep secrets and tell everything to each other? It’s weird because if his girlfriend told him something in confidence, he’ll make sure he won’t say a single thing to anyone about it.
But if any of his friends tell him something private, someway or another, his girlfriend finds out. Blah, what kind of friends do I have? Sorry for the rant and aimless post.
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1. the power or right to decide or act according to one's own judgment; freedom of judgment or choice: It is entirely within my discretion whether I will go or stay.
2. the quality of being discreet, esp. with reference to one's own actions or speech; prudence or decorum: Throwing all discretion to the winds, he blurted out the truth.
—Idiom
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1. The quality of being discreet; circumspection. See Synonyms at prudence.
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Basically, you have just learned a painful lesson in what you share with your friends and what you keep to yourself. Certain things don't have to move beyond your mind, to your mouth: What you earn, What you believe, What you do in the privacy of your bedroom. Also, there is no correct answer to "Does this make me look fat?" Hang in there.