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Life & Events > Pretending to Be Awake ...
 

Pretending to Be Awake ...

It is a wet and cool Monday morning. The light is so rare I could barely read the newspaper out on the porch. The coffee is weak (What the hell happened last night when I ground the beans?) I have little to report, other than that we are in for a couple of colder nights before Spring rears its beautiful face again. I must roll the electric radiator back into the bedroom or freeze my Budgerigar tonight.

Next week on May 5 I will turn another year. At this age "getting laid" means becoming too intimate with the undertaker. It means being too conscious of cracks in the sidewalk and no longer caring about matching colors when you put on clothing.

It also means looking backward a lot. I do that most Monday mornings.

I know precisely where my life took strategic turns. As I wrote in a previous post, everything that has ever happened to me is directly due to decisions I made. Growing older (or should that be 'shrinking older?') brings reflection. It makes me an instant memoirist.

I pondered doing a memoir about those turns. What would my life have become had I made the better decision(s)?

The memoir would have fiction sprinkled into it, of course, to titillate the reader. Most memoirs do. In fact I am sure there never has been a totally nonfiction memoir. Even Churchill sprinkled a few fictives among those battle scarred words.

I love that word: fictive.

So where do I begin?

Maybe with Kimberly? The only girl I ever met in a book store? Now that was an omen! I should have know she was a godsend! I was standing near the reference shelves when,

"Excuse me, but I think I know where you work..."

I turned into the face of a future that I would soon deny myself. I saw a glimpse of paradise and it locked its brilliant eyes on mine.

Ah. It is all about dreaming. It is all fraught with fiction because memory and its bedfellow - age - dissipates the truth.

Maybe it was the New Fiction shelf.

posted on Apr 28, 2008 6:01 AM ()

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Sorry Jondude, about Kim. We all do foolish things in our lives. I'm constantly doing that with the men I choose. I follow my heart way too often and my heart is obviously blind.
comment by sexysadie on Apr 30, 2008 10:47 AM ()
I once had a relationship that seemed too perfect to be true. The fellow had a near-death experience but survived long enough for me to discover who he really was. Then I realized if he had died that first time, I would have spent the rest of my life mourning the loss of this incredibly special person. But he lived and I learned he was a truly amoral jerk. I was so grateful to have been saved years of sadness over his loss. xx, T. P.S. You can wear blue and green together, also red and pink. Fear not. I am here to help you coordinate.
comment by tealstar on Apr 30, 2008 7:11 AM ()
Funny how we remember the passing what-ifs in our lives. Can I ask, what happened?
comment by sexysadie on Apr 29, 2008 5:59 PM ()
Oh, I agree with augusta. We have been shackled by expectations too long--others' expectations that is. How wonderful it is to be able to just be.
comment by angiedw on Apr 29, 2008 4:22 PM ()
With my one track mind when you said bookstore I immediately flashed on to the XXX rated bookstore I worked in years ago--Sorry,Kimberly
comment by greatmartin on Apr 28, 2008 6:20 PM ()
Nice post. Memory is certainly a rich source of often "fictive" material...time, age, ego and wishful thinking can play hell with it. Often I have difficulty distinguishing between what happened, what I suspect happened, what I wish happened, what probably happened, what probably didn't happen, etc.
comment by looserobes on Apr 28, 2008 1:39 PM ()
I recognize a lot of your reminisces from personal experience! I don't mind the lack of co-ordination in the matching colours - I put that down to my eccentricity - Who wants to grow older gracefully anyhow? It is our turn to shed the shackles of 'doing what is 'expected' and, relax enough to be 'ourselves'
comment by augusta on Apr 28, 2008 11:22 AM ()
Hey,Tarus.I will turn 78 on May 1st.May is a good month
for all of us.In case I forget"Happy Birthday"Jon.
comment by fredo on Apr 28, 2008 11:12 AM ()

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