Tales From Janet Land

Not passionate about this? Or not passionate in general?

Too late.

I've had more than my fair share of walls, so please believe me when I tell you that I get that.

If you wait for your father to acknowledge his role in your pain, you might be waiting forever to forgive and move forward. Forgiveness does not mean you absolve someone of their responsibility. But without forgiveness, we can't move forward onto better things. And for as hard as it is, you wind up wishing it were that easy.

Nobody tells you how hard doing that will be, though, right?It's messy and uncomfortable and raw...but so necessary. Keep in mind that forgiving someone doesn't mean that you are condoning their actions...just that you're giving yourself permission to move forward and permission to heal.Thanks to you *and* Ana for that reminder.

I've always found it really curious that two people could be legally married in one state but not another. Gay marriage is legal here in Canada and it doesn't differ from province to province. We didn't vote on it, either, now that I think about it. I do remember a lot of churches getting their panties in a knot, though. It was the issue that made my parents leave their church altogether.

We had the same trouble with a gopher a few years ago and we tried everything to get rid of it before seeing no other option but to kill it. They say to leave the dead gopher in his hole for a while to discourage others from coming around...not sure if it works, but we've never had another one.

What kind of work do you do?

I'm really sorry that getting something to your mother is so difficult. I admire how calm you always seem about all of it. I think you're doing a remarkable job at keeping your perspective and keeping your head above water.

I missed reading your blog this weekend more than I care to admit.And now I'm likely to skip my episode of Six Feet Under reading and getting caught up.Your Saturday sounds really relaxing.

Where are the pictures?!I wanna see you and Kota in the parade, Mary!I'm glad you had a good time and I hope it makes the yucky feeling worthwhile.By the way, my parents went cross border shopping this week for a few days and they loved the American Wal Mart. I couldn't help but think of you the whole time they were talking about it.

I wouldn't either.

Oh, poor you.Would ice cream be okay?

I enjoy Michael Moore, most of the time and enjoyed this film, too. It was pretty eye opening for me...guess I was fairly naive.

It took me a while. Damn you American Boy.

Well, then would it be possible for you to talk this out with your Aunt after she returns home instead of while she is visiting your sister? That way, you could explain your absence without needing further interference from your sister. Just a thought.

Is it possible for your aunt to come and see you and your family when she's finished with her visit to your sister?

Kids are really resilient like that, aren't they? They listen to their bodies right away and do what feels right to get better.It's unfortunate that we seem to lose that as we grow up.