When you forgive, you essentially undo the ability to
blame. If there is nothing to blame, then you are in charge of your response to outside stimuli. There is less room for anger without blame. There is less to fear when your're empowered." The concept of giving up blame leads to a feeling of unconditional love for others.



This is an important way to feel more like you are a contributing member of the human race. You begin to feel like you fit into the human family. You feel that you are important to the world, and the world returns the favor,
by allowing you to experience being connected to others.
You have joined the human family.
You belong to it
and it
belongs to you.


Paul writes this in 2 Corinthians 2:7-8 (NLT),
Now it is time to forgive him and comfort him.
Otherwise he may become so discouraged that he won’t be able to recover.
Now show him that you still love him.

Or it will become a wall between you and the intimacy that you seek.



You may have been hurt by something that your partner did to you.
You may have been hurt because your expectations weren't met.
You may have been hurt and you don't even remember why.
You may have done something to someone else that you are sorry for.
And you remember the pain and carry it with you like a grudge everywhere you go.
When your burden becomes too great, it becomes the relationship, it consumes your life and it changes who you are and what your relationships can be. It is a wall between you and the intimacy that you seek.

When you forgive

Forgive is defined as: giving up resentment against or the desire to punish; stop being angry with; pardon.

You relieve yourself of the burden of the past. You shed the hurt, pain, anger, and loneliness.
You can begin to heal.


You give the person you forgive (even yourself) the freedom to live in peace and to be able to change for the better.

Points about forgiveness:


Forgiveness is not forgetting.

The pain may not be completely gone.
One can forgive and still grieve a loss
or feel pain from a wound.

Damage and wounds can take time to repair.

Forgiveness does not deny responsibility for behavior. You have simply committed to not hold the other person in debt.

Ways to forgive:
An individual exercise in forgiveness:


Write down with pen and paper all of the things that you have done wrong. It is imperative that you write.
Word processing is not the same.

Read the list.

Now say "I did the best that I could with the knowledge that I had at the time. I now forgive myself and go free."

Destroy (burn or shred) the list.

Repeat the exercise for each of the other people who have hurt you.

Now begin anew to live your life without the burden of unforgiving pain - it is unnecessary suffering.

Individual forgiveness - forgive yourself for judging yourself for not being worthy of love, happiness and joy.

You are worthy of love.

You are worthy of happiness.

You are worthy of joy.

Stop judging yourself.

Have the strength and courage to allow yourself to be vulnerable.
Be kind and loving to yourself.
Practice holding a positive vision for yourself.
Make choices that support you in moving forward in your life.
It is all about choices.
Choose to forgive yourself and then move forward and let go of your past.
Live for today and enjoy the journey of life itself.

Recommended Reading:

How To Forgive Yourself. Magic Happens When You Truly Forgive Yourself This New Way. Discover For Yourself How Wonderful It Feels To Honestly And Completely Let Go Of The Past. Reconnect With The Forgotten And Neglected Parts Of You Who've Been Waiting For A Chance To Touch You.

https://www.positive-way.com/forgiven.htm