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(ALFREDO AND MIKE IN FRONT OF THE 'GAY' BEACH IN FORT LAUDERDALE--40 YEARS AND STILL GOING STRONG!)This
was going to be a 2 part series but it seems that people are
misunderstanding what I want to say so I want to explain a little
further and will break this part into 2 parts.
I am NOT
against gay couplings! If two people of the same sex want to get
together to express their love and/or to allow themselves the same and
many legal benefits, including financial, that nongay couples get/have
by getting a legal license that recognizes their status as a couple in
the eyes of the law then I am all for that! What I am not for is calling
it ‘marriage’, for following traditions that don’t seem to work.
If
you only got a mark of 50% in school you wouldn’t graduate. If you only
gave your boss 50% at work you would be fired. If you only paid 50% of
your rent or your mortgage you would be thrown out of your home. Why are
you willing to continue to follow a role model that is only successful
50% of the time? And that is why marriage as has been practiced for
centuries needs a makeover and who can do it better than gay people?
Aren’t they, stereotypically, the best at makeovers?
I
don’t expect nongay people in miserable marriages to comment and talk
about it. Yes it is nice to read about the success of opposite sex
marriages but, again, this is not what this post is about. This is about
correcting something that is wrong and making it better. I, personally
think that those who are getting involved in same sex commitments for
life can look at the mistakes that opposite sex attempts at commitment
have made and show other ways to do it.
Let two members of
the same sex get that legal license and instead of what has been
tradition turn it on its head and set a new model for all---same and
opposite sexes--to follow and maybe, just maybe, the divorce rate will
fall among nongays and not happen among gays.
There are
many reasons why gays want to get married. Being a romantic I would like
to believe that all do it because they love each other and want to let
the world know that it is about that love. I also think, possibly, in
the USA it might be about the over 1,000 federal tax breaks they will
get if the marriages are recognized by law. It also helps with Wills,
estates, inheritances and many other legal aspects that unmarried people
don’t get.
But let’s get back that it is done for love---ahhhhhhhh.
In
part 1 I wrote about some of the traditions that nongay people go
through when they get married and now let me explain why I don’t want
gay ‘marriages’.
It has been said for as long as I can
remember that gay people are imaginative, are leaders in fashions and
styles, sets trends in music, dance an are ahead of the rest. Is that a
false stereotype? Are we just as dull as nongays? Are we followers?
Living together as singles they would each get single rates, which combined would be more than the married rate.
When a will is made , giving a partner anything is legal , so can't see that anything would cause a change on these grounds .
Martin what would you like to see happen , can't see why change is needed , after all I have been married twice , once for 41 years and with my Cath since 1998 after my fist died.
To change anything would be unmanageable , you cant have one law just for gays.