Here is what is going on with a friend of mine. I'm glad it's not me, but it made me laugh to picture it. Don't worry, I'm not laughing at her, someday she'll look back and think it's funny.

"Did I tell you that butt head Mike biffed my sobriety birthday? 4 years. 9-5-5. I fixed crab legs and all sorts of yummy trimmings... asked him over for dinner... Had a death by chocolate cake.. He pipes up and says, gee this is a feast of grand proportions.. I said, yea you of all people should remember my sobriety birthday. He had the balls to say.. oh but you don't come to meetings so it didn't register. I'm aghast. I told him considering he was in my business more than my husband ever was and we met in the rooms of AA and had been thru some of the ugliest times of my life together.... you'd think he could remember this day.. I was pissed.

And he got mad when I didn't acknowledge Linda's (the dead married girlfriend) belly button birthday in May. I told him I knew it was that day... but didn't think it was appropriate to say Oh by the way did you remember today is (your dead lover who was married to a super nice guy) Linda's birthday..... seemed a bit insensitive to me... what do you think? This is one more reason he and I were never going to work out as a couple. There are about a zillion reasons.... so glad to know that clearly. And now I know that if I want a celebration of any special occasion... real or not so important to anyone else.... I will tell my girlfriends and they will shower me with accolades and support. Men are such bastardos........."