She's 19. She has an almost 2 year old. She left said child in April to move in with my brother in SomeOtherState to "figure things out." She left the baby with my sister/her mother.

Well she came back a week and a half ago. She got upset about something when she was in SomeOtherState and said she wanted to come back so called her mom who came to the rescue, as always. A week later, niece decided she did NOT want to come home but her mom said tough shit.

Anyway, niece's Myspace page said something about her being depressed so I sent a message checking in with her, asking if she was regretting moving back and stuff.

This was the response:

Not that I regret moving back here...its just its very hard for me to talk to all my friends here and there and hear how they are living life whether it is at school, work or just going out. I am restricted to this house and I cant do anything. I hate the fact that I am missing out on my life. I mean I love spending time with [baby] and being home and cleaning and helping out. Sometimes it doesnt bother me but sometimes I just wish things could be different and I could have some sort of life. I dont know. When I get thinking about these things I just get all worked up and upset. lame i know.


UGH. I REALLY REALLY REALLY want to respond with, Tough shit. Shoulda thought of all that before you decided to have unprotected sex - drunk or not. This isn't about you anymore, it's about your child. Until she's 18, you shouldn't even be worried about YOUR life anymore.

But if I do that, I slam the Communication Door shut.

UPDATE - this is what I responded with:

::Hugs::
I'm sorry you're upset and I can totally understand...It's hard to see others living life the way you think you want yours to go - all while you're not doing anything of the like. I get that - more than you know... but, but, but you have an amazing gift: [Baby]. Is there any way you and [Baby] could do more things together outside of the home? Like join a mom and tot group or something?

Just because you have [Baby] doesn't mean that you have to be in lock down all the time ... check with the Park District and the LIBRARY! They usually have lots of activities for little ones and you'd be able to get out into the world and still be with [Baby], too.

If it's any consolation at all, my teens and 20s were some of the worst years of my life... the friends you have now, you probably won't have in the years to come. But you'll always have little [Baby]!

Hang in there! I love you!