I think the most deplorable thing a person can do is cheat on their spouse. In fact I would even go so far as to say even cheating on a girlfriend or boyfriend is horrible. I cannot condone this type of betrayal in anyone.

I do not care how bad your marriage is. There is no excuse to betray and humiliate another human being like that. If you want to cheat then you need to leave. You need to cut ties completely if this is as simple as a FIRM break up or if you are married, then you need to get a divorce first.

There is no excuse. “I fell in love with someone else.” Oops your bad , but you still need to wait before you act on that love. Love does not turn you into a flailing idiot and posses your mind and make you do anything. You must control yourself and if you have kids and you want to keep custody of them you damned well better control those hormones.

While I do not believe the “cheating” spouse will be a worse or better parent I know in the eyes of the law that gives you fault. When your look in your kids faces if you can honestly say “It was worth it” then you do not care enough anyway. Actually, you know what maybe I do think that a cheating spouse would make a worse parent because when you submit to that first kiss you KNOW already that it put custody of your children in jeopardy and did it anyway.

Did you ever stop to think about what your choices are doing to your kids or the person YOU pledged your life too? What GOOD is your word if you are controlled by flights of whimsy? When you married that man you loved at one time would you have wanted them to suffer humiliation, self doubt and depression. Why not get a divorce first so he or she is not constantly looking in the mirror wondering why they were not good enough, why the other one is better.

Well guess what? The other one is not better and is just a guilty is you and if they have a spouse as well then look forward to the same thing happening to you to better yet the next time your hormones get a jolt , since we have determined they control you, you are the one to do the same thing to the one who ruined his family for you.

I am sure if you are reading this and thinking, “it wasn’t like that,” “you do not know me how can you judge me” I do not have to know you. I do not have to judge you. All you have to do is look around at the mess you have made. Look at the pain you have caused and own it. It belongs to you no matter what habits you could not stand in your loved one. LEAVE FIRST.

I do not need to judge people who do this the evidence is the mess they made and left for a court to clean up.