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Life & Events > Relationships > Jealous or Insulted???
 

Jealous or Insulted???

I think a particular woman should learn some damn manners!

This is my 4th of July party rant which involves an old childhood friend of my fiance's. (and no, they were never an item)

This "woman"... if you could really consider one that acts as she does to be that... proceeded to call my fiance by some childhood nickname that her daughter had given him nearly 12 years ago. As though hearing the word "but-tons" yelled out all night wasn't enough, she and her now 14 year old daughter continually kept asking Caleb to take a picture with them. The "woman" kept saying that her daughter wanted a picture with him.

Okay, here is my gripe. If I was around you & your significant other, whom my child knew when she was 2 and miraculously seems to remember the person after 12 years of never hearing or seeing them, and my kid wanted a picture with your significant other, I would talk to YOU first. I would come to the two of you and say, "Hey, I would really like to get a pic of "A" with my kid and you "B" are more than welcome to be in the pic as well, but I would really like to get a pic since it's been 12 years. Is that cool with you guys or no?

I think most would be obliged to say sure thing! But when you chase a person around all night, ignore his fiancee, and do things just to illicit a reaction... you're insulting me and I don't appreciate it. The mother & daughter were playing off each other & I knew the acts were to get a reaction so I just played it soooo cool. I'm so proud of myself because I am Italian and my temper can be icky!

However, on our way home my wonderful man made the mistake of asking why I was jealous. Or at least I think that was a mistake. There is nothing about this "woman" that I would be jealous of at all. Trust me, I would admit any inkling of jealousy if I had any. I was irritated that she & the daughter intentionally insulted me all night by acting towards my fiance & myself the way they did.

There appear to be many intelligent people here at mybloggers so I ask you... would being irritated at the "woman & daughter's" behavior warrant the jealousy tag, or do I have a valid argument that she was blatantly insulting me.

posted on July 6, 2008 12:17 AM ()

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The "woman" is obviously an a$$ as she clearly made an a$$ of herself. You behaved maturely and I don't sense jealousy, just annoyance.
comment by shesaidwhat on July 14, 2008 1:51 PM ()
Recalling the good old days when I was aged two, I would have needed much parental urging to carry a memory till I was 14. You deflected the mother nicely.
Here's a puzzle. What should I have done? At a civic function I shared a table with a woman who was hot for me, my then current paramour and her husband.
BTW, wecome to MyBloggers.
comment by bumpedoff on July 9, 2008 11:14 PM ()
Let's just say you handled this very well...extremely well
comment by strider333 on July 7, 2008 11:21 PM ()
You done good. I probably would have went so far to say that you did not want to attend anything she was at.
comment by mmmhollywould on July 6, 2008 6:59 PM ()
Sounds to me like the "woman" needs to learn that Caleb is no longer interested in her. She sounds like she is discounting you because acknowleging your importance to Caleb would mean that she "lost".
It also sounds to me that she was aggressively "going after" him.
You're right to be irritated at her, Jenn. At least in my mind.
If somebody was doing that to me, I would be a little more than irritated. I'd be downright upset, and I would tell the idiot so in no uncertain terms.
By the way, welcome to MyBloggers.
]I hope you don't mind, but I've just added you to my friends list.
comment by hayduke on July 6, 2008 6:32 PM ()
it sounds like you have every right to be upset. Not appriciating rude behaviour toward you and your fiancee doesn't mean jealousy in the least. Honestly if she was doing all of this trying to get some sort of reaction, maybe she is the one with issues
comment by ducky on July 6, 2008 5:09 PM ()
You "done good". Hope your mate understood you weren't jealous.
comment by solitaire on July 6, 2008 4:26 PM ()
Jelousy is an emotion - we're all entitiled to that. It depends on wether you want to make an issue out of things/past or just wipe it under the carpet. Some things in life don't warrent getting in a sweat over as some things you'll never be at ease with no matter whooot! Move along
comment by lynnie on July 6, 2008 11:44 AM ()
You have to put some people in their 'place' at first misstep. thestephymore is right.
comment by jondude on July 6, 2008 6:09 AM ()
It was annoying, tasteless, clingy behavior. No doubt about that. I'd have grabbed her by the throat after the first "But-tons" and ended it. You're too much of a lady to do that. Clearly it was a big bring down for you. I'm glad you shared it with us here. Clearly she planted the word "jealous" in his mind.
Now, you can continue to burn over it or let it go. Which one gives you more peace in your life? After all, you've got the fiance, she does not.
comment by thestephymore on July 6, 2008 1:53 AM ()
Yes, I believe that would have irritated me too. Don't blame you for being upset.
comment by texastar on July 6, 2008 12:32 AM ()

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