I did not watch this series,.Martin ask me that it was
from New Hampshire,and this was in today paper.
This is Danbury,New Hamphshire.
Think that this is the second time on there.
So,wanted to post this for him to read it and of course
the rest of you who watch this series.


Bob and Alexandra Graf (back) run the Inn at Danbury with their children. They were featured on an episode of ABC’s reality series Wife Swap on Wednesday.
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Alexandra Graf has held a lot of titles. Wife. Mother. Innkeeper. Mrs. Salt Lake City 2001. After she decided to trade places in May with a doting Italian mother from Long Island for the ABC show Wife Swap, she was also branded a liar, a phony and a "whore" by her temporary spouse, who hurled insults at her when she challenged his parenting style.

But Graf took it all in stride Wednesday night, as she watched the episode for the first time, surrounded by a raucous and supportive crowd of friends and guests at the Inn at Danbury, which Graf runs with her husband, Bob.

"I'm a phony and a whore!" Graf shouted to the crowd, which cheered wildly and raised pilsner glasses. They were packed into the inn's lounge, where the Grafs held a "Swap Watch" party.

The Grafs and three of their four children - Meagan, 16, Zacchaeus, 14, and Daphny, 11- were filmed for two weeks last year after the show put out a call for bed-and-breakfast owners who work with their children. Alex Graf traded places with Lisa Medici, a Long Island woman who puts all her energy into running her home and catering to the needs of her two boys - a 16-year-old wanna-be bodybuilder and an angry 12-year-old whose vocabulary included plenty of four-letter words.

On the show, the Grafs are portrayed as hardworking business owners who expect the same of their children. For the most part, it's true, Bob Graf said yesterday.


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Alex Graf swapped places with Lisa Medici (right), shown with her family at their Long Island home.
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"From our end, it didn't do us justice," he said. "Of course it portrays you as extreme, but it really is what we are."

The episode showed the kids stripping beds, cleaning toilets and working in the restaurant, serving customers as their father rang his bell to indicate another order needed to be taken out to the dining room. But the kids only work a few nights a week and weekends, Alex Graf said yesterday, and the inn does rely on other employees.

"I mean, the kids don't work eight hours a day," Graf said. "We do have part-time help. But for the integrity of the show, we aren't supposed to say much about it."

"People who know us know that we don't exploit our children," she added.

At the inn, Medici was horrified with the responsibilities the children took on, and she criticized Bob Graf for putting work before family and sharing too many of the burdens of the business with his children. On camera, the kids admitted to hating the dirndl and lederhosen uniforms they must wear, and they said the expectations from their parents are sometimes hard to meet.

"There's no love shared," Medici said. "It's not a home; it's a business."

On Long Island, Alex Graf had to attend bodybuilding training sessions and help John Medici apply fake tanner to his son, Nick, before a big competition.

"Don't I look like a sculpture?" the Speedo-clad teenager said as he flexed his muscles in the mirror.

Graf struggled each morning to get 12-year-old Giuseppe out of bed as he gave her the middle finger, screamed at her to shut up and get out of his room, and even shoved her out of his doorway.

After a week, Graf introduced her own rules and tried to show the Medici family there was more to life than bodybuilding. She banned training sessions and made Nick get a job handing out fliers - dressed as a giant slice of pizza - for a pizza parlor. She also set up an art lesson for Giuseppe with a New York City graffiti artist. And she urged John to take a bigger role as disciplinarian.