I get so damn frustrated with my husband when it comes to our son.I just want to  smack him or shake him.I guess in my mind he isn't doing enough or quick enough somethings.I think it comes from me not having a father.So i really don't have an example to go by.Therefore i judge harshly.On somethings he agrees for me to stay on him,but other things he thinks I'm over the top on.I'm bullheaded about things.I don't know if I'm a type A or not.Leaning toward more of a yes i am.

    Oh I'm so mad today.There are just things i EXPECT or maybe rather DEMAND of him.My family has gotten on me and Alan has broke down saying I'm too hard on him.I don't give him a chance to even start a technique with Chan before i jump in and criticize him(you shouldn't do it that way or don't,shouldn't,maybes then I just take over)I wish i could stop.Sometimes i just have to physically leave the room where i can't hear them studying together.Is it where he was gone for 18mths  therefore i feel like he isn't qualified to teach him or that i just know what works????

   Alan says i make him feel like he can't contribute to anything related to school with Chan.Chan is having difficulties and it is worrying me to death so i just want him to "get it" and i think we both need to help and contribute.I just can't master my staying out of daddy-son time studies...Ohhhh...Help...I hate being mad!I hate making husband feel incompetent.I feel frustrated about it all.(ME especially