Here
are six tips for creating "Relative Harmony" for the Holidays:
1.
Throw Out the Love Net Well
before they show up at your door, when you begin planning your holiday, send your
"love net" — your high vibration loving energy — out to your
relatives, and keep doing it throughout the holiday season.
Feel
love toward them even in the most trying times. Know that love is patience and
understanding. Plenty of loving energy can head off, diffuse and transmute negative
energy emanating from your relations. Ask for an unending supply of loving energy
to pass into you from the Universe and through you to your family members.
2.
Visualize Take
some quiet time each day and visualize just how wonderful your time with your
relatives will be. In your mind, see them helping you instead of criticizing,
offering support, staying out of the way, picking up after themselves, volunteering
instead of demanding, loving the gifts you have picked for them, finding ways
to make your time together joyful and loving.
Relish
the emotions of these wonderful reunions. Thank the Universe in advance for granting
this incredible camaraderie, goodwill, grace and warmth. Then go ahead and visualize
the rest of your day going smoothly, too!
3.
Stay in Your High Frequency RangeWhatever
happens, do not allow your relations to pull you into the low frequency range
of anger, frustration, bitterness or regret.
Stay
in your high frequency states of love, contentment, joy, compassion and generosity
— play music and tune out negativity, focus on those who appreciate what
you are offering, do something creative that serves your soul. If you are being
bombarded by negative energy — excuse yourself and go do something yummy
just for you-take in a movie, go for a walk, play with your puppy, give yourself
a bubble bath, shoot some hoops.
4.
Redirect Them into Helping you in a Good WayIf
you know that they are likely to be under foot, in your way or just over-helpful
in the wrong ways, have a list in advance of things you would like them to do
to help you in a "good way."
They'll feel good about being able to help, and making you pleased, and you will
manifest goodwill on all planes.
5.
Monitor Your Own Verbal Expressions with Your Love BubbleBefore
you say anything that you would regret or that will escalate into warfare, encase
yourself in positive, loving energy. Allow your "love bubble" to be
a place where you can breathe deeply and transform your negative energy to positive.
See cool, calming blue light starting at the top and washing over you down to
your toes at the bottom of the bubble.
Now
step out, and say what you need to say in a calm, loving, respectful, constructive,
gracious, but firm way. Call upon the "right" words and tone of voice.
6.
Give Santa Those "Hot Buttons" and Let Him Take Them Back to the North
PoleYou
can do all of the above five things, but if you allow your relatives to push those
"Hot Buttons," you'll be back where you started. Make a conscious decision
that you are giving those Hot Buttons to Santa-as your gift to yourself.
Release
those previous memories of pain and angst with your relations and start fresh.
If they start down the old path, surprise them and don't engage! Let go of the
mind-chatter in your head that gets you crazy and allows them to get your goat.
Just decide NOT to go there. Instead just keep telling yourself, you deserve joy,
peace, goodwill and good, kindly relatives at the holidays! And they just might
turn out to be what you imagined! Now go and have a TRULY happy holiday!
~Jackie
Lapin is the author of The Art of Conscious Creation