I just finished watching the premiere of the Lifetime movie "Prayers For Bobby", based on a true story and the book of the same title.  It was about a young man's struggle with being accepted by a religious family and parents, especially a mother, who refused to recognize that she had a gay son.
I found this movie to be well written and acted, and a good study of the difficulties that young people face when coming to terms with their sexuality in a home that sees this as a sin.  It was unfortunate for the main character in this story that his parents refused to see him as he was but rather attempted to "cure" him through Bible verses and counseling.
I read a post recently by a blogger here who described her struggle in trying to "submit" to her husband through his abuse and the church's acceptance of his inappropriate behavior.  She struggled through this feeling that God did not accept her because she was not following what this "church', her husband, and "religion" proposed to be the way things should be.  Luckily, she found her way out of this church sanctioned oppression and is moving on. 
The young man in this movie and true story struggled with the same things, feeling as though God would not accept him into heaven, that he would go to Hell, and that he was an abomination because he was told by his "religion" that there was something wrong with him.  I do believe that this line of thinking that was forced upon him by his parents, family, and church led to his final actions.
I can honestly understand the experience of a parent saying to a child that they would never have a gay son as I am certain if I were to have been gay growing up in a strictly religious and sheltering home I would have been told the same.  Somehow, even though the words are "Hate the sin but love the sinner" they simply get blurred into "You are totally unacceptable".
To quote the Bible, "God is no respecter of persons", which means we are all the same in God's eyes and are sinners.  For some insane reason there becomes certain levels of sin and certain sinners are more "despicable" and " unacceptable" than others.  And I am not referring to heinous crimes of murder, rape and the like, although there are still many who believe that if one kills (including themselves) they will not go to Heaven.
I honestly hate this line of thinking, as I grew up in a home where my dad was a pastor and a prison chaplain and seen first hand that somehow some things were more okay than others.  I can say that watching my dad spend more time with his church members and inmates while I do believe he should have spent more time with his wife and daughters shows me the double standard and hypocrisy that my parents live to this day.
My mother has had the home phone number to our new residence since the beginning of the year and knew when we were moving but there have been no calls whatsoever to the phone here, my cell phone (of which the number has remained the same), or even my old house phone, of which the service has yet to be cancelled and my voicemail box is still available.  I am their daughter, their flesh and blood, yet if you were to question my parents regarding this they would simply claim that I am not living to please God and they will not support me, or even my daughter (and I don't mean financially).
What do we really tell our children if we are saying that what they are doing will keep them out of Heaven, disgrace them in the eyes of their families, not following the "norm"?  That was the point of the mother's story in this movie and real life drama that occurred twenty or more years ago.
I am glad that this subject was approached in the manner that it was and made public for people to see and consider.  Perhaps you do not agree with everything that a gay, lesbian, or bisexual person lives and does, and nobody is asking you to embrace it.  But there are so many now that are saying do not condemn it.  Do gay people deserve your condemnation?  I believe not.  Besides, if you want the Bible version, it says that "Judge not lest you be judged".
I encourage you to watch this movie if you have the opportunity.  It really is two hours that may help you approach your views of many that you see as "different" in a more positive light.  No one deserves to feel that they are unacceptable to family, friends, God or their higher power.