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I have been thinking about friendhship a lot lately. Perhaps it's because Becca and I had a huge blow up Sunday and ours may vey well be over. Or perhaps I've been observing the difference between guys friendships and girls friendships... or maybe it's a little bit of both.
Guys friendships are so simple. They have lots of friends, that usually all get along with each other, and they don't have the issues that girls have. I heard once that guys have more friends, but with less intimate relaionships. Where as girls have less friends with more intimate relationships. My example; Mike has tons of friends. Friends from college, friends from high school, friends from work, friends from baseball... Me, the only person from high school that I *still* talk to is my cousin. I cut off a lot of "friends" to reduce the drama. I still talk to childhood friend, and I have my new buddy from work. I have random aquainances here and there but you get the point. And I am fighting with my best friend, Becca, and it sucks...
She defies my understanding of guys friendships and girls friendships. She has friendships like a guy. And she is so busy with all of them that we have lost touch. I expressed my feelings toward the subject Sunday and it didnt go too well. She hadn't called in like five days and that upset me. We used to talk everyday- I mean aren't you suppose to talk to your best friend everyday? I would even be totally ok with a 5 min convo every two days or whatever. But the fact that she never, ever has time for me sucks. Every time I ask her to hang out she's too busy... She can't even find the time to call me in a whole week! So she thinks I'm being ridiculous... But my stance is this; When I'm your friend I'm loyal, helpful, I'd do anything for ya but if you don't have time for me then why bother? I feel as if it's become a one sided friendship and I'm sick of feeling this way. We aren't seeing eye to eye on this one and haven't spoken since Sunday. I have no ide if this is going to blow over,or stick. She's too stubborn too call, and I'm sick of giving in just to "make peace". I'm totally lost on this one... I avoid confrontation as much as possible to avoid situations like this. But I had to speak up. My new favorite line; Eh, what can ya do?
