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My best friends husband has killed himself.

They found him at 11 o'clock this morning, dead in his car, after taking an overdose, I am so cross with him, I would kill him myself if I could get hold of him.

My friend is destroyed. I can't take the pain that I see in her face. I have been with her all day and she is only 38, now a single mum to three gorgeous boys, who have come home from school to find out that their dad is dead. The eldest is 15 and the youngest is 6. He also has two girls from his previous marriage, older than the boys, but we can't find them at the moment to tell them.

He is a selfish pig. I am soo, soo cross with him. How do you get over somehting like that? I can't ease her pain, in any shape or form, I am hurting with pain, let alone what she is trying to deal with.

There is a big difference from choosing to be single, to having your whole life ripped open by losing the love of your life, the man you wanted to grow old with and the father of your children?

I am a bit shocked and stunned, to say the least right now. Just needed to blog it a bit, to get it out there.

xxxx

posted on Nov 16, 2010 8:38 AM ()

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My uncle commited suicide. It was devastating to all the family members.

His wife was one of my favorite aunts. He had everything to live for.

comment by elderjane on Nov 19, 2010 6:51 AM ()

Very upsetting news.
How are you coping with the floods of last night? The scenes on MSN look horrendous!
Hope all is ok.

comment by febreze on Nov 17, 2010 5:14 AM ()

Hiya,
I live on the side of a beacon, so our villiage has not been affected-it is only really up the county that have had it hideously badly :(
xxxx

reply by cornishlass on Nov 18, 2010 12:03 PM ()

How very, very sad. The guilt will stay with his wife and kids forever. I am so sorry for your friends loss. Just be the shoulder she can cry on; she will need you to be there for her.

comment by gapeach on Nov 16, 2010 7:22 PM ()

comment by augusta on Nov 16, 2010 2:54 PM ()

I am so sorry.

My best friend's mother commited suicide when she was around fifteen years old. "Susan" was a surrogate mother to me in so many ways growing up and I remember the pain all too well. Her family did manage to heal and move forward and even forgive their mother for not being able to live with the pain she was feeling (she was, obviously, very very depressed for many, many years) and they now speak of her in a loving, remembrance kind of way. But it took a long time.

Again, I am so very sorry.

comment by juliansmom on Nov 16, 2010 10:26 AM ()

I can understand why you are irritated with him. Suicide is the most selfish act there is, showing an utter disregard for the consequences on those left behind. Inevitably it leaves so many questions about what the survivors, even distant acquaintances, could have said or done to give this person hope that life was worth living, if not today, then at some point with help from same friends, family, and those distant acquaintances. And I think it is hardest on the wife because in theory nobody knew him better than she did. In theory.

comment by kitchentales on Nov 16, 2010 10:20 AM ()

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