I'm so sorry Jim. it's been 7 and a 1/2 years since my mom passed. it's hard to believe sometimes. I visit her grave when I can, but always alone. I cannot go there with anyone else. it's just such a personal, intimate thing in my opinion. but don't me wrong, it's definitely bizarre and sort of surreal to go there. it's therapeutic in a way, certainly. I go and talk to her, and I bring flowers from time to time.
my sister is just like you. it's a lot harder for her to bring herself to go. so PLEASE don't feel guilty about not going - it doesn't make you a bad person, or a bad son. everyone grieves in their own way, and you have to do what's right for you. your apprehension is totally normal, and you shouldn't feel guilty about it. you know your dad loves you and he's not holding a grudge because you won't see his grave site.
I hope one day that maybe you do decide to see your dad's plot, because I think it would allay your fears. but by all means, you do it when you are absolutely ready to.
my heart goes out to you, Jim. take care
I'm glad you had a blast in Vegas, Jim. But one has to wonder why you chose Las Vegas in the first place...you're not much of a gambler, you don't really care too much for the glitzy shows, you'd rather see the "real McCoy" rather than scaled-down versions of national momuments...was it just for Jimmy Buffet's Margaritaville? I'm gonna let you in on a little secret - they have those everywhere!
I'm just kidding. Vegas sounded like it was absolutely amazing and I'm jealous. I have never been but I think it would be so cool to go there. You should post your pictures on facebook!! Take care!
my sister is just like you. it's a lot harder for her to bring herself to go. so PLEASE don't feel guilty about not going - it doesn't make you a bad person, or a bad son. everyone grieves in their own way, and you have to do what's right for you. your apprehension is totally normal, and you shouldn't feel guilty about it. you know your dad loves you and he's not holding a grudge because you won't see his grave site.
I hope one day that maybe you do decide to see your dad's plot, because I think it would allay your fears. but by all means, you do it when you are absolutely ready to.
my heart goes out to you, Jim. take care